(Part three hundred seven), Depok, West Java, Indonesia, 07 July 2015, 19:59. WIB)
A lot of men in Indonesia who have abundant wealth a little, then not able to restrain the passions syahwatnya to marry another woman (the second wife / polygamy).
When his business more smoothly, it may not be a problem, he can cover up his actions by marrying another woman (nikah siri) are silent-diam.i
Every day is always home at night or do not come home, the more reason there is a meeting outside the city, or no business. But when the business again jammed, or bankrupt, and his mistress (mistress) started getting caught), started a quarrel with the first wife and the children of the first wife, the first matter of supply began to drag a living treasure, the first wife of a jealous and not could receive her husband had another wife (polygamy), begin their marriage accompanied by conflict and growing disunity even tuntutn divorce from first wife, if you have this, like fruit simalakama, divorced second wife (young), means will menzolimi children and second wife abandoned, and retaining the second wife of the cold war is always going on in the household.
If this is difficult for the husband would be fair to both his wife, while the Prophet in his saying said the husband who is not fair to his wives will walk sideways like a man who had a stroke in the hereafter.
O men dn future husband, one of the tasks the devil, is a pull apart the couple, and it seems to men other women (other than his wife) both met at the office, at the mall, on the street, like a beautiful angel exceeds the beauty of his wife. It is the lies of the devil, so we lured the woman we see it, that we become followers of the devil, so we approached and just follow our sexual lust plunges. Be careful lies of the devil, because the word of God, the Devil is enemy number one real human.
Now why most of the prophets and apostles have more than one wife, the prophets and messengers are infallible, which is maintained directly by God from sin, and always able to do justice.
Hidayatullah.com in his storytelling, once a Sheikh, in one of the countries whose governments prohibit polygamy, married for the second time. The news was terendus marriage by the country's intelligence. At night when the Sheikh was staying at home his second wife, he was raided by a group of members of the intelligence. He was interrogated harshly.
"Why did you get married again?" With that Sheikh calm defensively. "How do you know if this woman is my wife. This woman is my mistress. "
Finally the intel was apologize for the actions of their presumptuous. The world seemed upside down. Married people good to be arrested, but when reason alone to cohabiting couples, even revered. In other words, people fornicate outside of marriage is protected and respected, while the married well violate the law.
In our country, talks about polygamy always warm in the hearing, especially after the famous preacher KH Abdullah Gymnastiar married to his second wife. Those who reject the law of polygamy also tried to find justification from the Koran and Hadith that supports their anti. Usually they postulate with paragraph 3 of Surat an-Nisa ', that a man may be polygamous if able beruat fair.
ولن تستطيعوا أن تعدلوا بين النساء ولو حرصتم فلا تميلوا كل الميل فتذروها كالمعلقة وإن تصلحوا وتتقوا فإن الله كان غفورا رحيما
"And you never will be able to do justice between wives (mu), although you really want to do so, because it do not be too inclined (to which you love), so you let others in limbo. And if you hold the repair and maintain themselves (of fraud), then surely Allah is Forgiving, Merciful. "
But paragraph 129 the same letter explaining anyone would not be able to do justice among his wives. This means, in fact polygamy is not allowed, because it depends on the condition of permissibility "fair" are impossible to be realized.
If we examine the explanation of the scholars about the second paragraph above, there is no contradiction at all between the two. Because the fair is intended to in paragraph 3, is not fair is meant by paragraph 129. Indeed, the first fragment of paragraph 129 reads: "And once in a while you will not be able to do justice between the wives of you even if you really want it ..." But when we further read, then there is the next fragment, which reads, "... so do not be too inclined (to wife the more you love) so that you can let others in limbo ...."
Obviously that understand mukhâlafah (meaning opposite) of the second fragment of the above is: "Acting is fair thou between them so that they are not in limbo", as opposed to "Do not be so inclined (not biased)" is "Applies luruslah (be fair ) ".
If so, it is clear that the meaning of "fair" in the first fragment, not the meaning of "fair" in the second fragment. For if interpreted together, would have caused contradictory meanings, because the verse would read: "And you never will be berkalu justice to your wives, even though you really want to do so, then be fair ...!"
It has been explained that there was no one who could do justice, then why do justice ruled? It's called burdening humans with something she could not do, and Allah glory to Him says in Surah Al-Baqarah verse 284; "God does not burden a person with something he can not execute".
So fair the first phrase means fair in the liver (such as feeling more love to the wife the other). Fair in this case that could not be done by humans, so they are not commanded to be fair in this case. Prophet sallallaahu 'alaihi Wassalam himself had said: "O Allah, this is pembagianku in what I have (able to do, namely living matter and Stay), and do not criticize me on what you have and I have (of the heart)." [HR. Abu Dawud]
So the meaning of "Do not apply skew (doing is fair) .." in the second paragraph fragment means fair in muamalah (such as the provision of livelihood, turn to stay, provision of facilities, children's education, etc.). Just in case this is what can be done by humans.
Thus understanding that paragraph shall not contradictory. Because the interpretation would read: "You will never be able to do justice in the case of the liver, because the liver is the business of God. He could just make you more loving one among your wives. But the heart of this trend must not make thee not apply in fair to them. Let your love more to one of merkea makes no attention to the other so that they are in limbo. "Thus there will be no contradictory meanings.
There is also postulated by the hadith of the Prophet sallallaahu 'alaihi Wassalam. Prophet said in the pulpit: "The family of Bani Hashim bin Mughirah ask permission to marry their daughter to Ali bin Abi Talib, then I will not allow it, I will not allow it, I will not allow it, unless Ali divorces my daughter and marry their children perempaun. Indeed Fatima is part of me, doubting what doubts, what hurts me to hurt him. "[HR. Bukhari and Muslim].
Generally, those who reject the basic poligigami makes this hadith to support his anti polygamy.
However, when examined back, the assumption is rejected by the word of God's glory to Him in Surat An-Nisa ': 3:
وإن خفتم ألا تقسطوا في اليتامى فانكحوا ما طاب لكم من النساء مثنى وثلاث ورباع فإن خفتم ألا تعدلوا فواحدة أو ما ملكت أيمانكم ذلك أدنى ألا تعولوا
"So these women marry (other) that you enjoy; two, three or four. Then if you fear you will not be able to do justice, then (marry) only one. "[QS. An-Nisa ': 3].
This verse explains that Allah Subhanahu Wata'a allow a man to marry more than one woman, and also ordered to marry one wife only if she was worried not able to do justice. The Prophet himself had nine wives. Then as saying he is' arguments, as well as his actions.
The reason the Prophet forbade Ali polygamy because it hurt Fatima and deeds of the Prophet, then it is indeed true. But the question is, what kind of harm? If the "hurt" of Lady Fatima ra feeling offended because a co-wife, it is certainly not in question, because the Prophet himself a polygamist, and feeling uneasy and jealous it will always be in the hearts of his wife. His wives also women like Fatima ra. The Companions of the Prophet else too much polygamy, whether they banned polygamy because their wives jealous? Or their wives did not exist that has a jealous nature? But if that meant "hurt" it is because Ali wanted to marry the daughter of Abu Jahl, so this will hurt the Prophet glory to Him.
The Prophet sallallaahu 'alaihi Wassalam explain this with the words of his:
وإنى لست أحرم حلالا ولا أحل حراما, ولكن والله لا تجتمع بنت رسول الله وبنت عدو الله أبدا
"Really I do not forbid or proscribe kosher kosher, but for the sake of Allah, will not gather daughter of Allah's Apostle and girls enemy of God in man forever." [HR. Bukhari and Muslim]
Commenting on the above hadith of Ibn At-Tin said: "The most appropriate Opinions in interpreting this story is, that the Prophet sallallaahu 'alaihi Wassalam proscribe Ali collect his daughter with the daughter of Abu Jahl because it will hurt him, and hurt the Prophet haraam, based on ijma' ,
The Prophet sallallaahu 'alaihi Wassalam: "I do not proscribe a lawful case', that is, she (the daughter of Abu Jahl) was lawful marriage by Ali if only not his wife Fatimah. As for collecting both will hurt the Prophet sallallaahu 'alaihi Wassalam because they feel tersakitinya Fatima, then it is not permissible.
"Prohibition is not because" tersakitinya "Fatima ra, but tersakitinya the Prophet sallallaahu 'alaihi Wassalam because tersakitinya Fatimah, and people agree on the prohibition hurt the Prophet sallallaahu' alaihi Wassalam.
On this Imam Ibn al-Qayyim said: "In this hadith there is a description of the prohibition hurt the Prophet sallallaahu 'alaihi Wassalam in any way, even though the acts were permissible. If the Prophet sallallaahu 'alaihi Wassalam feel offended by it then it should not be done based on the word of Allah glory to Him: "It is inappropriate for you to hurt the Prophet [QS. Al-Ahzab: 53]. "
Regulate, not Prohibit
Islam is a religion of nature, of course, come to meet and organize humanitarian instincts. He did not come to prevent polygamy, but setting out how polygamous correct. Because polygamy is common and natural phenomenon in human history.
Polygamy is socially permissible option, may be made and innocent people who did not. Not mandatory and are not allowed for men who feel unable to do justice.
But the important thing is we should not hate the permissibility of this law, let alone say that polygamy is not an Islamic Sharia. When there are people who do it, certainly not to be hated or blamed, because he underwent something that is permissible for her, may even be encouraged by the hadiths that encourage people to multiply the Prophet sallallaahu 'alaihi Wassalam.
When there is the case of polygamous households damaged by a couple of actors who are not able to do justice, should not necessarily blame poligaminya. Because many households monogamous messy. Thus, it is not because of the destruction of non polygamous households we blame monogaminya. (Hidayatullah.com)
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