Married: Sustenance and dating is set God.

Unfinished journey (190)

(Part one hundred ninety, Depok, West Java, Indonesia, January 23, 2015, 18:51 pm)

Keisha and Alisa, my two grand daughter

Married: Sustenance and dating is set God.

March 8, 1986 I got married in my in-laws house in Cempaka Putih, East Jakarta, at the age of 26 years, while my wife was 21 years old, I was only two years as a reporter in the National News Agency Antara.

Words, the Ustad (Islamic Preacher), if we have good intentions, let alone get married which is the Sunnah of the Prophet, surely God will provide convenience and sustenance that come unexpectedly.

I was with a salary of Rp 125,000 per month when it actually is not ready financially to marry, or to finance the wedding.

However, because of my good intentions, I was forced to sell my vespa motorcycle, everyday I use to cover.

Vespa it is I bought the rest of my money working as a dishwasher results in the Chinese restaurant, King Restaurant in Fresno, California when I was in college in the country. When the dishwasher work I was able to buy a new car sedan Dodge Colt, when I go home I sell the car, and to Indonesia money just to buy a a Vespa.

Vespa sold Rp 900,000, I deposited all to the in-laws for a wedding reception party costs aids.

My office mates law, including leadership (Chairman) Reporters Unit  East Jakarta Kamsul Hasan (now a senior editor Pos Kota newspaper).

At the time of reception Kamsul Hasan as Chief of the Mayor of East Jakarta correspondent joint secretary Syamsurizal Unit (Daily reporter Pelita) and some journalists on behalf journalist friends came to the reception.

At the time shake Kamsul Hasan give Envelopes members who put my coat, he said this is the result of a donation envelope fellow reporters and who know me in East Jakarta.

The next day when I opened the envelope was found to contain Rp 1,250,000. The money was then I bought a new Vespa, so I went back to work and can cover easily because you want to marry a former Vespa sales, even after mating have a power to buy a new Vespa motorcicle.

In essence, the provision has been arranged by God, God will give us sustenance that comes sometimes we do not think not.

Lest we do not want to marry, if you do not have enough money, do not have a home. I have friends remain single until he retired, had a lot of consideration if you want to marry, want to have a first home was, had enough money and a lot of consideration.

Whereas the provision that could come after mating. I want to marry her first child when I was in a state of not having any money, because it does not work (employment relationship is terminated as a result I was exposed to stroke, from Beijing Oristar Media), armed with financial aid from the prospective in-law, and aid in the form of loans from neighbors (entirely paid off after the reception), Allahamdulilah wedding reception run smoothly.

Not whether sustenance, marriage and death that is set up God, has been determined in the book

"Lawh Mahfuz" so why are we afraid of marriage.

Indeed, the name of the provision need not be money, but could be in the form of convenience and healthy body. And marital happiness is not only determined the amount of money, but it can be shaped sustenance family happiness harmony.

I have a friend, her husband a successful businessman, had a lot of cars, and houses a lot, but his wife from the beginning of marriage always complain kept no money.

It is now only discovered why her husband was impressed stingy, apparently has a dozen years her husband had another wife (second wife / mistress / nikah siri). Spotted another wife's home life like hell, fighting continues between husband and wife.

It shows men, rich little remarried (got wife more than one), but have more than one wife is not easy, he should be fair with his wife. God in the hadith warn the men who are not fair to their wives, in the hereafter would like stroke, walk sideways withered body.

Justify had two wives could be happy:

'' You do not like me, had two wives can make stress, old wives jealous in young and otherwise, '' said one of my uncle former village headman in Teritip, Gunumg Tembak , Balikpapan, told me in 2000.

I have a friend he was already 70 years old, still healthy and still work, already have two grandchildren of two children, and had a beautiful wife. But in this age already twilight he tempted lust marries a young widow childless one. As a result she was divorced by his wife, children and grandchildren were all isolate, never visited him again. Poor old age that he is now a lot of daydreaming, loneliness, that his new wife's again return home. So be careful with the seductive devil who continue to tempt people and continue to divorcing couples.

Prophet sallallaahu alaihi wa sallam said: "Allaah has set all the destiny of all creatures from fifty thousand years before God created the heavens and the earth". (HR. Muslim, no. 2653).

"No misfortune can happen on earth and (nor) in yourselves but it is inscribed in the Book (Lawh Mahfuz) before We bring it. Verily it is easy for Allah ". (QS. Al-Hadid: 22).

ISLAMIC CONCEPT OF MARRIAGE

by The

Al-Ustadz Yazid bin Abdul Qadir Jawas

MUQADIMAH

The issue of marriage is a matter that is always current and always interesting to talk about, because this issue is not only about the nature of human life and human livelihood but also touches a central agency that is noble and households. Sublime, since this institution is a stronghold for the defense of human dignity and values ahlaq noble and central.

Because it is a central institution for the birth and growth of the Children of Adam, who would have a key role in bringing peace and prosperity on this earth. According to Islam Bani Adamlah the honor to carry the divine mandate as caliph in the earth, as the word of Allah Ta'ala.

"Meaning: Remember when your Lord said to the angels:" I am going to make a vicegerent on earth. "They said:" Why do you want to make (caliph) on the face of the earth who will make mischief therein and shed blood, while we always glorify the praise you and purify you?. Allah says: "Verily I know what you do not know". [Al-Baqarah: 30].

Marriage is not a small and trivial issue, but it is an important issue and big. 'Aqad nikah (marriage) is as a solid and holy covenant (mitsaqon gholidhoo), as represented the word of Allah Ta'ala.

"Meaning: How are you going to take it back, but some of you have been hanging out (mixed) with the other as husband and wife and they (wives) have taken from you a strong agreement". [An-Nisa ': 21].

Therefore, it is expected of all parties involved, especially the parents, maintaining and keeping it sincerely and responsibly.

Islamic religion has given a complete and detailed instructions on the issue of marriage. Starting from the suggestion to marry, how to choose an ideal partner, do khitbah (making a proposal), how to educate children, as well as provide a way out if there was chaos in the household, until the process nafaqah and the estate, all governed by Islam in detail and detail.

Furthermore, to understand the Islamic concept of marriage, then references the most legitimate and correct the Qur'an and Sunnah Sahih (in accordance with the understanding Salaf Salih -pen), with reference we will find clarity on aspects of marriage and some irregularities and shifts the value of marriage in our society.

Of course, not all problems can pour author in this paper, only a few issues that need to be discussed is about: Man's nature, aim Marriage in Islam, Procedures and Irregularities In Marriage Marriage.

MARRIAGE IS A HUMAN FITRAH

Islam is a religion fithrah, and man created God Almighty match this nature, because it is Allaah tells them exposes himself to religion fithrah to prevent fraud and irregularities. So that humans walking on nature.

Marriage is fithrah humanity, and therefore Islam advocate for marriage, because marriage is gharizah insaniyah (human instinct). If gharizah is not filled with a valid path that is marriage, then he will seek the streets satan that many plunged into the black valley. Word of Allah Ta'ala.

"Meaning: Then with a straight face hadapkanlah to religion (God), (still above) the nature of God has created man in the nature. There is no change in the nature of God. (That's) straight religion, but most people do not know". [Ar-Rum: 30].

A. Encourage Islamic Marriage

Islam has made a valid marriage bond is based on the Qur'an and Sunnah as the only means to meet the demands of a very basic human instincts, and the means to build an Islamic family. Appreciation of Islam against the marriage bond immense, to the extent that the bond is set proportional to half of the religion. Anas bin Malik radliyallahu 'anhu said: "It has been said the Prophet sallallaahu' alaihi wa sallam:

"Meaning: Whoever got married, then he has completed half of his religion. And let him maintain a pious to God in the other half". [Hadith History Thabrani and Judge]

B. Islam Not Liking single

Prophet sallallaahu 'alaihi wa sallam commanded to marry and prohibits loud to people who do not want to get married. Anas bin Malik radliyallahu 'anhu said: "The Prophet sallallaahu' alaihi wa sallam ordered us to marriage and forbids us to ban single hard". And he said:

"Meaning: Marry women and children and loving. Because I will berbanggga with many of my people in front of the Prophet later on the Day of Resurrection". [Hadith narrated by Ahmad and Ibn Hibban shahihkan]

Once upon a time three Companions came to ask the wives of the Prophet sallallaahu 'alaihi wa sallam about worship him, then once explained, each wanting to improve their worship. One said: As for me, will be fasting all the time without a break. And another said: As I would stay away from women, I will not marry forever .... When it was heard by the Prophet sallallaahu 'alaihi wa sallam, he came out as he said:

"Meaning: Did you guys have said so and so, really for the sake of Allah, verily I am the most scared and pious among you. But I fast and I break the fast, I pray and I sleep well and I also marry women. Whoever does not love the Sunnah, then it is not included golongannku ". [Hadith Bukhari and Muslim].

People who have sense and bashirah will not want to plunge himself into the heresy with celibacy. Shaykh Muhammad Yusuf Hussain said: "Living a life of celibacy is dry and arid, life has no meaning and purpose. A life devoid of various human virtues which are generally established on the basis of selfishness and self-centeredness and want apart from all liability responsibility ".

People who are single are generally only live for themselves. They single shared passions always roar, to the purity of spirit and spiritual becomes cloudy. They are always there in the struggle against nature, despite their devotion reliable, but the upheaval that occurs continuously over time will weaken the faith and resilience of life and damage the health and will take him to the valley of contempt.

So people who are reluctant to marry either male or female, they were actually classified as the most miserable person in this life. They are the most do not enjoy the happiness of life, both sensual pleasure and spiritual nature. Maybe they were rich, but they are poor of God's gifts.

Islam rejects monkhood system because the system is contrary to human nature, and even the attitude that means against the Sunnah and the nature of God Almighty who has been assigned to the inhabitants. Reluctance foster home for fear of poverty is the attitude of the ignorant (fool), because all sustenance is set by God since the human being in the womb, and man can not theorize sustenance diakaruniakan God, for example he said: "If I live alone salary I am pretty, but if the wife had not enough?! ".

These words are the words of vanity, as opposed to the verses of Allah and the hadiths of the Prophet sallallaahu 'alaihi wa sallam. God commanded to marry, and if they are indigent surely Allah will help to provide sustenance to him. God promises a relief to those who married, in his words:

"Meaning: And kawinkanlah people who alone among you, and decent people (spouse) of servants sahayamu that men and women. If they are poor God will enable them with His gifts. And Allah Area (His gift), Knowing ". [An-Nur: 32]

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Prophet sallallaahu 'alaihi wa sallam strengthen the promise of Allah is with his saying:

"Meaning: There are three classes of human beings who are entitled God help them, which is a mujahid fi sabilillah, a servant who redeemed himself so independent, and one who married because they want to preserve his honor". [Hadith narrated by Ahmad 2: 251, Nasa'i, Tirmidhi, Ibn Majah Hadith No. 2518, and Judge 2: 160 of the companions of Abu Hurayrah radliyallahu 'anhu].

The Salaf-Salih strongly advocated for their anti-marriage and celibacy, and do not like to linger on his own.

Ibn Mas'ud radliyallahu 'anhu once said: "If my age ten days away, really I would rather get married than I have to see God as a bachelor". [Ihya Ulumuddin and Tuhfatul 'Flow things. 20].

PURPOSE OF MARRIAGE IN ISLAM

[1]. To Meet the Demands of Man The Human Instinct

In the previous article we mentioned that marriage is a human nature, it is a legitimate way to meet this need is by aqad marriage (through marriage levels), not in a very dirty disgusting as the ways people today are with dating, cohabiting, prostitution , commit adultery, lesbian, gay, and others who have strayed and are forbidden by Islam.

[2]. To Fortify ahlak The Sublime.

The main target of disyari'atkannya marriage in Islam of which is to fortify the human dignity of gross and heinous act, which has been lowered and lull the sublime human dignity. Islam considers marriage and family formation as a means to maintain efefktif young men and women from damage, and protect society from chaos. Prophet sallallaahu 'alaihi wa sallam said:

"Meaning: O young people! Whoever among you capable of wedlock, then nikahlah, because marriage is more lowered outlook, and fortify the vulva (genitals). But those who can not afford, then let him fast (fasting), because it can shaum fortify himself ". [Sahih Hadith narrated by Ahmad, Bukhari, Muslim, Tirmidhi, Nasa'i, Darimi, Ibn Jarud and Bayhaqi].

[3]. To Enforce Islamic Households.

In the Qur'an mentioned that Islam justifies Thalaq (divorce), if the husband and wife are no longer able to enforce the limits of Allah, as Allah role in the following verse:

"Meaning: Thalaq (which can dirujuki) twice, once again it may refer to the way ma'ruf or divorce by way of bail. It is not lawful for you to take back from something that you have given them, except when both parties fear will not be can execute the laws of God, there is no blame on either of them given by the wife to redeem himself. that the laws of Allah, then do not break them. those who violate the laws of God they are the ones who dhalim ". [Al-Baqarah: 229].

Ie both are not able to implement the Shari'ah of Allah. And justifiably refer to (re married again) when Both jets able to enforce the limits of Allah. As mentioned in surah Al-Baqarah verse advanced above:

"Meaning: Then if the husband is menthalaqnya (talaq after the second), the woman was not lawful for him to be married to another husband. Then if the other husband divorces her, then there is no sin for both of them (the former first husband and wife ) to marry again, if they believe that they can keep God's laws, diternagkannya to people who (want to) know ". [Al-Baqarah: 230]

So the noble purpose of marriage is to implement the Shari'ah Sialm husband and wife in the household. Law enforcement households based Shari'ah is mandatory. Therefore every muslim who wants to build an Islamic household, the Islamic teachings have provided some of the criteria of an ideal potential partner, namely: Should kafa'ah and Shalihah.

[a]. Kafa'ah According to Islamic Concept

The influence of materialism has many befall parents. Not a few of today's parents have thought, that in looking for a soul mate for their child, always consider the equilibrium position, social status and descent alone. While religious consideration received less attention. Kufu problem '(equal, equal) only measured through the material.

According to Islam, kafa'ah or similarity, equivalence or equivalent in a marriage, it is considered very important due to the similarity between the husband and wife, then attempt to set up and establish an Islamic household inysa God will manifest. But kafa'ah according to Islam is only measured by the quality of faith and piety and ahlaq someone, social status, descent and others. God looks at the degree of a person's well that Arabs and non-Arabs, poor or rich. There is no difference of the two, but the degree taqwanya [Al-Hujurat: 13]

"Meaning: O mankind! We created you from a male and a female and made you nations and tribes that ye may know each other know. Verily, the most honorable among you in the sight of Allah are those who most pious among you. Allah is Knower Know ". [Al-Hujurat: 13].

And they remain sekufu 'and there is no obstacle for them to marry each other. Mandatory for parents, young men and women who still berfaham mempertahanakan materialist and customs of their compulsory leave and return to the Qur'an and Sunnah that Saheeh. Word of the Prophet sallallaahu 'alaihi wa sallam:

"Meaning: Women marry because of four things: Because of his wealth, because their offspring, because of her beauty, and because of his religion. Then you shall select as religion (all Islamannya), because if not, you will undoubtedly harm". [Hadith Shahi Bukhari 6: 123, Muslim 4: 175]

[b]. Choosing The Shalihah

People who want to marry must choose shalihan woman and the woman should choose a righteous man. According to the Qur'an shalihah woman is:

"Meaning: Women who shalihah is that obediently to God again maintain themselves if the husband does not exist, as God has kept (them)". [An-Nisaa: 34]

According to the Qur'an and the Sahih Al-Hadith among the characteristics of women who shalihah is:

"Obediently to God, obediently to the Apostle, Wearing the veil that covers the entire private parts and not to show off the beauty (tabarruj) as an ignorant woman (Al-Ahzab: 32), not being alone with men who are not mahram, obediently to both Parents in goodness, obediently to the husband and kind to neighbors and so forth ".

If these criteria are met Insha Allah Islamic household will be realized. In addition, the Prophet sallallaahu 'alaihi wa sallam advocated to choose women who peranak (many offspring) and compassionate in order to give birth to the next generation of people.

[4]. To Increase To Worship God.

According to the Islamic concept, live fully included to worship Allah and do good to our fellow human beings. From this perspective, the household is one of the hotbeds for worship and good deeds in addition to worship and righteous deeds that others, to the extent that his wife fuck-was included worship (ALMS).

Prophet sallallaahu 'alaihi wa sallam said:

"Meaning: If you have intercourse with your wives including alms. Hear the words of the Companions of the Messenger of astonishment and asked:" O Messenger of Allah, a husband against his wife to satisfy his desire to be rewarded? "The Prophet sallallaahu 'alaihi wa sallam replied:" How do you think if they (the husbands) in addition to copulate with his wife, they are not innocent.? "Answer the Companions:" Yeah, right ". He said again:" So it is when they have intercourse with his wife (in a halal), they will get the reward! ". [Hadith Sahih Muslim History 3:82, Ahmad 5: 1167 -168 and Nasa with Saheeh isnaad].

[5]. To Finding Descendants The Salih.

The purpose of marriage of which is to preserve and develop the children of Adam, God said:

"Meaning: God has made of the selves you were a married couple and has given you from your wives, the children and grandchildren, and made provision of good-good. So will they believe in falsehood and deny favors of Allah? ". [An-Nahl: 72]

And the most important thing in marriage is not merely to have children, but trying to find a quality and form generation, which is looking for a righteous son and devoted to God.

Surely the righteous descendants will not be obtained, but with the correct Islamic education. We mention this because a lot of "Institute of Islamic Education", but the content and how un-Islamic. So much we see the children of the Muslims do not have Islamic ahlaq, caused due to wrong education. Therefore, the husband and wife are responsible to educate, teaching, and directing children to the right path.

About the purpose of marriage in Islam, Islam also considers that the establishment of the family as a way to realize the objectives larger covering various aspects of society based on Islam which will have a major influence and fundamental to the existence of Muslims and Muslims.

PROCEDURES FOR MARRIAGE IN ISLAM

Islam has given a clear concept about the way of marriage based on the Qur'an and Sunnah Sahih (according to the understanding of the Salaf Salih -peny), briefly author mentioned and explained as necessary:

[1]. Khitbah (making a proposal)

A Muslim man who would marry a Muslim woman should he propose first, because it is possible he was in the nut by others, in this case Islam forbids a Muslim woman who was the groom proposed by others (muttafaq 'alaihi). In khitbah disunnahkan see the face that will groom (Sahih Hadith narrated by Ahmad, Abu Dawud, Tirmidhi No. 1093 and Darimi).

[2]. aqad Marriage

In aqad marriage there are some requirements and obligations that must be met:

a. The presence of both consensual bride.

b. The existence Ijab qabul.

c. The existence of Mahar.

d. The presence of the Mayor.

e. The presence of witnesses.

And according to the sunnah before marriage aqad held first sermon called Khutbatun Marriage or Khutbatul intent.

[3]. walimah

Walimatul 'urusy obligatory and be simple and should be invited in walimah poor people. Prophet sallallaahu 'alaihi wa sallam said about inviting the rich just mean the food was as bad as the bad food.

Prophet sallallaahu 'alaihi wa sallam.

"Meaning: The worst food is the only food in walimah inviting people to eat rich, while the poor are not invited. Those who did not attend the invitation walimah, then he disobedience to Allah and His Messenger". [Hadith Sahih Muslim History 4: 154 and Bayhaqi 7: 262 of Abu Hurayrah]

As a cautionary note should be invited to the righteous people, rich and poor, because there are words of the Prophet sallallaahu 'alaihi wa sallam:

"It means: Do you get along but with the believers and do not eat your food, but those who fear Him". [Hadith Sahih History Abu Dawud, Tirmidhi, Judge 4: 128 and 3:38 Ahmad from Abu Sa'eed al-Khudri].

SOME irregularities REQUIRED TO OCCUR IN MARRIAGE avoided / REMOVED.

[1]. courtship

Most people prior to mate normally "Dating" in advance, this is usually regarded as an individual introductory period, or period of assessment or considered as an embodiment of a sense of love for the opposite sex.

An assumption like this, then gave birth to a consensus shared among the various parties to consider courtship as something normal and perfectly natural. This feeling is wrong and mistaken assumption. In dating is certainly not inevitable from berintim intimate two people of the opposite sex, there occurred touch of view look and touch, which is clear everything is forbidden according to Islamic Shariah.

Prophet sallallaahu 'alaihi wa sallam said:

"It means: Do not ever a man be alone with a woman, but the woman was with mahram". [Sahih Hadith narrated by Ahmad, Bukhari and Muslim].

So in Islam there is no chance of dating and courtship is haraam.

[2]. The ring exchange.

In making a proposal usually no exchange rings as a sign of the bond, it is not from Islam. (See Adabuz-Zifaf, Shaykh Nasir al-Albani)

[3]. The High Demanding dowry.

According to Islam the best of dowry is a cheap and easy, not difficult or expensive. Indeed, the dowry was the right woman, but Islam suggested that simplify and prohibits high dowry demands.

The story of a woman's warning against Umar that limit women's dowry, is a story that is wrong because the history is very weak. [See Irwa'ul Ghalil 6, p. 347-348].

[4]. Following the Ceremony.

Islamic teachings and regulations should be higher than anything else. Every event, ceremonies and customs that are contrary to Islam, then it is obligatory to be eliminated. Generally Muslims in the way marriage is always exalt and flatter local customs, so sunnah-Sunnah of the Prophet sallallaahu 'alaihi wa sallam true and authentic have them shut down and extinguish.

How ironic ...!. To those who still menuhankan customs ignorance and insulting the Islamic concept, meaning they do not believe in Islam.

Allah Subhanahu wa Ta'ala says:

"Meaning: Is ignorance of law they want, and (legal) who is better than the (law) of Allah for those who believe?". [Al-Maaidah: 50]

People who are looking for concepts, rules, and procedures other than Islam, it will never again be accepted by God and later in the Hereafter they will be the losers, as the word of Allah, the Exalted:

"Meaning: Whoever seeks a religion other than Islam, it occasionally will not be accepted (the religion) thereof, and in the Hereafter he is among those who lose". [Ali-Imran: 85].

[5]. People say Congratulations Ala Ignorance.

The ignorance always use words Birafa 'Wal Banin, when congratulate the bride and groom. Speech Birafa 'Wal Banin (hopefully cheap bride sustenance and many children) is prohibited by Islam.

From Al-Hasan, that 'Aqil ibn Abi Talib marriage with a woman from Jasyam. Guests congratulated by saying ignorance: Birafa 'Wal Banin. 'Aqil ibn Abi Talib forbid them saying: "Do not say that!. Because the Prophet shallallhu' alaihi wa sallam prohibit such speech". Guests asked: "So what should we say, O Abu Zaid?". 'Aqil explains:

"Say: Barakallahu lakum wa Baraka 'Alaiykum" (Hopefully God give you blessings and bestow upon you a blessing). Such words are ordered Prophet sallallaahu 'alaihi wa sallam. "[Hadith Sahih Ibn Abi Abi Shaybah History, Darimi 2: 134, Nasa'i, Ibn Majah, Ahmad 3: 451, and others].

Regular prayer that the Prophet sallallaahu 'alaihi wa sallam say to a bride is:

"Wa laka Baarakallahu baarakaa 'alaiyka wa Jama'a baiynakumaa FII KHOIR"

Benediction is based on the hadeeth narrated from Abu Hurayrah:

"Meaning: From Abu Hurayrah, that the Prophet sallallaahu 'alaihi wa sallam when congratulate a bride, he made supplication: (Baarakallahu laka wabaraka' alaiyka wa Jama'a baiynakuma KHOIR FII) Hopefully God give blessing, easy- I hope God pours out blessings upon you and hopefully he unified the two of you in goodness ". [Sahih Hadith narrated by Ahmad 2:38, Tirmidhi, Darimi 2: 134, Judge 2: 183, Ibn Majah and Bayhaqi 7: 148].

[6]. Ikhtilath existence.

Ikhtilath is the mixing of men and women to occur perspective view, tap the touch, handshake between man and woman. According to Islam between the bridegroom and women should be separated, so that what we have mentioned above can be avoided everything.

[7]. Other violations.

Other violations are often carried out among them is the frenetic music.

khatimah

Ideal households according to the teachings of Islam are covered households Sakinah (peace of soul), Mawaddah (love) and Rahmah (compassion), Allah says:

"Meaning: And among His signs is that He created his wives for you from your kind alone, and ye shall live peacefully with him. And he (also) has made of you (husband, wife) love and affection. Indeed in this is truly there are signs for a people who reflect. "[Ar-Rum: 21].

In an Islamic household, a husband and wife must understand the shortcomings and advantages, and should also know the rights and obligations as well as understand the task and fungsiya each of which must be carried out in a responsible manner.

So the effort to realize the marriage and households that got keridla'an God can be realized, but given the human condition that can not be separated from the weaknesses and shortcomings, while the trials and tribulations always accompany human life, it is not rare couples who originally lived a quiet, peaceful and happy suddenly hit by a "crisis" discord and strife.

When you have strived for peace as mentioned in the Qur'an Surat an-Nisa ': 34-35, but it still fails, then Islam gives a last resort, the "divorce".

Let us attempt to obligate Islamic marriage and establish an Islamic household, and we shall leave rules, ordinances, ceremonies and customs that are contrary to Islam. The teachings of Islam is the only true doctrine and diridlai by Allaah [Ali-Imran: 19]

"Meaning: Our Lord, anugrahkanlah to us wives and offspring who soothing us, and make us Imam for those who fear Him". [Al-Furqan: 140].

Ameen.

Allaah a'alam sowab bish.

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