Dispute children with parents about modern culture (secular)

Unfinished journey (177)

(Part one hundred and seventy-seven, Depok, West Java, Indonesia, January 5, 2015, 16:31 pm)

Dispute children with parents about modern culture (secular)

When I went to college at California State University, Fresno, USA, I see a difficult problem faced by parents, especially Muslim parents, also in other cities in the United States.

Possible to understand capitalist (secularist) and human rights defenders, who only looked at in terms of a secular man, without the right of Allah Almighty God upon the existing law in Koran and Hadith (message) Muhammad Sollaulahu Alaihi Wassalam (SAW ) which is applied to all mankind.

One example next to my apartment, live female student from Singapore, who lived with American men, not far from the city of Fresno, in the city of San Diego, a Muslim father complained that his son lived a room, an apartment with a female student from Japan.

The two women share a room with a man grounded locally, so that their English language skills, the better and faster smoothly.

We can imagine women and men aged 20 this year in terms of sex libido is at peak times, when in the Qur'an and Hadith, Allah warns us that we should not approach adultery. So if men and women near the devil will tempt them to commit zina (unlawful sexual intercourse, sex with not with your wife or husband )

So sometimes these problems make tense (dispute) between the two parents with their children.

Both parents (especially Muslims) tried to advise her according arguments exist in the Qur'an and the Hadith, while the child who has been affected by the secular culture of sexual freedom, so do not understand (less listening) advice that Syar'ie (Islamic ), so that the children sometimes cursing his parents as old-fashioned and traditional are considered already traditionalist times and against the culture of modern life.

Sins of the lash, Swearing Both Parents

 Preparation of the chapter "Al-Bukhari said," CHAPTER NOT BOTH PARENTS who can SOMEONE chided. "Made by al-Bukhari not be separated from a variety of benefits, so that some scholars say that the fiqh of Imam al-Bukhari looks of drafting chapters.

With chapter titles like on top of al-Bukhari left the answers and the questions that you think yourself-hadith-what might be he is playing-and if there are those who mistreat her parents.

Then al-Bukhari mentioned hadith of Abdullah ibn 'Amr who said: The Messenger of Allah said, "Indeed, among the greatest of sins, big prayer is someone to curse his parents." Then he asked, "O Messenger of Allah, how could someone cursed his parents?" He replied, "Someone else then the father chided him berate his father and his mother berate other people and the people berate her mother. (On-the-takhrij by al-Bukhari (number 5836), Abu Dawood (number 5136))" How this word it!

In the traditions there are some problems:

First problem: Determination of the presence of major sins and minor sins. Ahl establish the existence of major sins and minor sins in Islam. But they disagree about the definition of major sins and little sins. I will mention most of their opinions, then I will mention a strong opinion, insha'Allah.

Among them are some who say that the term great sin it is relative. Every sin is great according to them. But because there is less of it then he is seen by them as a great sin. It is an opinion.

Second problem: Every action that caused had he included a great sin. While others are not.

Third problem: large sin is revealed (mentioned) by Allah and His Messenger, and the other (which is not mentioned) is a small sin.

The correct opinion is that it is a great sin act applicable to him and God had threatened to doom or anathema. Then this is a great sin. This is the correct opinion.

Is there a big sin are seven? The truth, the great sin more than seven. The Prophet said, "Stay away from the seven cases were destroyed (Ibid, (number 2707.6705), Muslims (number 222).)" Then this is the amount (number) that do not require a limitation because there are sins of the others. Ibn 'Abbas said that the great sin it is closer to seventy than to seven. Most muhadditsin mention it to a hundred.

Great sin must immediately be followed by repentance from it, because the Prophet said, "The next Umrah Umrah to be sin-sin that is between them and the pilgrimage Mabrur no reply except heaven. (On-the-takhrij by al-Bukhari (number 1752), Muslim (3243)) "

He also said, "Prayer five times a day on Friday to the next Friday, and Ramadan to Ramadan next becomes sin-sin that exist between them during major sins shunned. (On-the-takhrij by Muslim (number 505))" It is clear that the great sin can not be eliminated by this obedience obedience except with repentance.

Allah says: "If you avoid major sins among the sins forbidden you do, surely we delete your mistakes (sins, small) and we enter you into a glorious place (heaven)." (QS. An- Nisa ': 31)

God explained that the people who avoid great sins, God will forgive his sins with the eraser of good deeds. This is what is said about the great sin.

In Saheeh al-Bukhari and Sahih Muslim there is a hadith of Abu Bakrah in which he said, "Messenger of Allah said, 'Would you tell me about the great sin?' We replied, 'Of course, O Messenger of Allah.' He said, 'There are three: associating partners with Allah, disobedience to parents-he previously supine then sat down and continued his speech and speech-Know lie, know and false testimony; know and speech lie, know and false testimony.' He kept repeating repeat it until we say, 'Hopefully he silent (because they feel sorry for the Prophet kept saying that). (On-the-takhrij by al-Bukhari (number 5839), Muslims (number 219) "In among the benefits that can be understood from the hadeeth is that a person must repent of their sins and not big enough by good works alone, but must repent to God.

As for the small sins can be removed by ablution, prayer, and almsgiving. While the major sins-O brother-saudaraku- can not not have to repent of it. Allah says, "And ye repent to Allah, O people who believe that you are lucky." (QS. An-Nur: 31)

In another verse Allah says, "And [also] those who, when working on indecency or wronged their own souls, they remember Allah and seek forgiveness for their sins, and anyone else who can forgive sins other than Allah? And they it does not continue his evil deeds, and they know. "(QS. Al 'Imran: 135)

Among its benefits is that the Prophet also named the person who caused his parents abused as those who mistreat their parents.

He said, "Among the greatest of major sins is someone to curse his parents." Only a few and rare people who curse his parents. But those who revile or curse other people's parents then the man curse his parents, meaning he was the cause dilaknatnya parents. It is as if he has cursed them directly. Na'udzu billah. He said, "Surely the greatest sin among the major sins is someone to curse his parents." Then he asked, "O Messenger of Allah, how could someone has cursed his parents?" He replied, "Someone else then the father chided him berate his father and his mother chided the other person and that person chided her." This means curse.

The scientists say that it gives the sense that the person who caused a sin or breaking of a relationship then he's like people who do it directly. It was like the word of God, "And do not you curse the gods they worship gods other than Allah, because they will be cursing God with transgressors without knowledge." (QS. Al-An'am: 108)

If you know that they will revile Allah, then you should not berate idols or berate leaders infidels and taghout-taghout them. For example, you go to a heathen and you berate taghout his or leader, when you know that he would berate your leader, will revile Allah, or even going to revile God. It is forbidden for you berate his gods, leaders, and taghout-taghout her, because you are the cause dicacinya Allah. Similarly, parents cursed others; it includes most major sin, because then he has done something that caused her parents cursed, with the result that others reciprocate as said by him. Whoever threw the doors of other people's homes, then the door will be thrown by them anyway. Whoever insults another person, then he would be scorned by them.

The scientists say that the forbidden is not limited to just curse, but also forbidden to berate and insult others, even as low as possible (smooth-smooth) scolding, because if you do that to people, they would have done the same thing to a father you or your mother despite the disapproval at least, so you be the cause of it. Thus, you get a great sin.

adulterous sin

Sin of adultery was not the same. Allah says, "And come not nigh to fornication; adultery actually it is a terrible thing and a bad way. "(QS. Al-Isra ': 32)

And those who do not worship any other god along with Allah and do not kill the soul which Allah has forbidden (to kill) except with (reason) is true, and do not commit adultery, so whoever did it, surely he gets (retaliation) sin (her) , (ie) will be doubled his punishment on the Day of Resurrection, and he will be eternal in the punishment, in a state of humiliation, except those who repent. (QS. Al-Furqan: 68-70)

Women who commit adultery. and men who commit adultery, then deralah each one of them a hundred times flagellation, and let mercy to both prevent you to (run) the religion of Allah, if ye believe in Allah and the Last Day, and let (implementation) punishment they witnessed by a group of people who believe. (QS. An-Nuur: 2)

The scholars said, "This is the punishment for adulterers women and men who are still flunky, unmarried in the world. If you are married even though only once a lifetime, then the penalty for both was stoned to death with rocks. Similarly, described in the hadith of the Prophet that if it has not been implemented Qisas punishment for both the world and both die in a state of not repent of the sin of adultery is necessarily both will diadzab in hell with fire whip.

In the book of Psalms says, "Behold the fornicators that will be hung on their genitals in hell and be tortured with an iron whip. So if they howl because of the pain of lashes Zabaniyah angel said, "Where did this sound when you're laughing, revelers and not being watched by God and not ashamed to Him.

Rasulullah SAW said, "It is not faith that an adulterer when fornicate. It is not faith that when a thief steals. It is not faithful man who drank wine was when swallow. And it is not faithful people who looted the high value - hence people look at it - it was when it all away. "(Hadith History Bukhariy)

He also said, "When a servant would fornicate out her faith. Faith is like an umbrella in it. Then if he stopped from doing that then faith will come back to him, he also said, "Whoever fornicate or drink wine Allah will deprive the faith of himself as a man take off of his head." Also, "Three people who do not want to talk to God on day of Resurrection and will not be seen and purified, was for them a painful punishment, an old man who committed adultery, the king who is a liar, and the poor are proud. "

Abdullah bin Mas'ud ra. said, "I asked the Prophet, 'Is the greatest sin in the sight of Allah Ta'ala ?; He replied, 'That you make allies for God when He Who created you,' It is very large. So what else? I asked back. He replied, 'That you killed your son because he was afraid if someday eat with you. 'Then what else', I asked again. He replied, 'That you fornicate with lover (ie wife) neighbor.'

Then Allah revealed the justification of the word he was with his words, "And those who do not worship any other god along with Allah and do not kill the soul which Allah has forbidden (to kill) except with (reason) is true, and do not commit adultery, whoever who do so that, surely he gets (retaliation) sin (her), (ie) will be doubled to him on the day of doom kiarnat and he will eternally in the doom that, in a state of abject, except those who repent. "(QS. Al -Furqan: 68-70)

Notice, how God has rnenyertakan mention of adultery with the wife of a neighbor with partners with Allah and slay such life as Allah kill him unless there are justifiable Personality '. This hadith mentioned in Bukhari and Muslim.

Imam Bukhari narrated the hadith of the Prophet sleep narrated by Samurah bin Jundub. In a hadith it is stated that he SAW visited by the angel Gabriel and Michael. He recounts, "We set out to get somewhere such tannur narrow top while the bottom wide. From there came the noise and fuss. We see him, it turns out there are many men and women naked. If they licked existing fire underneath them howling by terrible heat. I ask ,; O Jibril, who are they? 'He replied,' They are the fornicators women and men. That being punished for them until the arrival of the Day of Judgment. "

May Allah bestow forgiveness and inner well-being for all.

About the interpretation that the Hell 'he has seven doors' (al-hijjr: 44) 'Ata' said, "The door of the most terrific heat and sting and the most foul smell is a door that is for the adulterer adultery after they know keharamannya. "

Makhul ad-Dimasyqiy said, "The inhabitants of hell to smell rotten saying, 'We have never been more foul smell of this odor. Explained to them, 'That's the smell of the pubic the fornicators. "

Ibn Zaid, one of the priests in the field of interpretation says "Behold the fornicators genitals smell was really torturing the residents of hell."

Among the ten verses are commanded by God to Moses. "Do not steal and do not also commit adultery so I shut down my face from you!" If this is khithab (sentence) to the Prophet of God, Moses, then what about the others ?!

Prophet has said that Satan spreads his soldiers to earth, saying, "Who among you are misled a Muslim would I wear a crown on his head. Who is the greatest most dekatlah fitnahnya position to me. One of the soldiers face and said, "I will continue to tease the so and so until he refused to divorce his wife." Satan said, "I'm not going to give the crown because it would later he married again with the others. Other soldiers face and said, "I will continue to tease so and so until I managed to instill hostility between him and his brother." Satan said, "I'm not going to give the crown because one day he would be at peace again." Another soldier face and he said, "I will continue to tease the so and so until he committed adultery." Satan said, "Well, it's nice." Then the devil army closer to him and put the crown on his head.

We seek refuge in Allah from the evil demon and his soldiers.

From Anas, the Prophet SAW said, "Verily the faith 'sirbal', long cloth which is applied by God to whom He wills. When a servant of God revoke sirbal fornicate it from him. If you repent, He will restore it.

It was narrated that the Prophet said, "O all the Muslims, fear of you from (doing) adultery. It was her six threats; three in the world and three others in the hereafter. Who in the world is the loss of charisma face, short age, and prolonged poverty. As for the Hereafter is the wrath of Allah wa ta'ala Tabara, bad reckoning, and the torment of hell. "

He also said, "Whoever dies in a state not stop drinking wine, Allah Ta'ala will give him to drink river water Ghuthah. That river in hell that comes from the pubic prostitutes (women adulterers). "(Hadith narrated by Imam Ahmad)

That, in hell someday will flow from their pubic foul pus and blood then it will all be drunk to the people who die in a state of 'mushirr', continuous and not quit drinking.

Rasulullah SAW said, "There is no sin greater after shirk with Allah from the 'drop of water' as outlined by a man to the genitals that are not lawful for him."

Prophet also said, "In Hell there is a valley full of poisonous snakes. The size of a camel's neck. The snakes will peck people who leave the prayer and usually will eat away at the body for 70 years, then there dagingnya.Di terkelupaslah flesh juada valley whose name Jubb al-Huzn. He was filled with snakes and scorpions. Scorpions the size of bighal (hybrid horse and a donkey). He has 70 sting. Each of which has a pouch can. He will sting adulterer and insert the contents of venom sac into the adulterer body. He will feel the stinging pain of over 1000 years. Then terkelupaslah flesh-meat and will flow from his cock foul pus and blood. "

It added that those who put his hand on a woman with lust accompanied, on the Day of Judgment will come with hands tied at the neck. If he kissed her, both her mouth will be mortgaged in hell. And if fornicate with her, her thighs would speak and testify on the Day of Judgement. He will say, "I have done something illegal." So God looked at the view wrath. This view of God on man's face and he was denied him. He even asked, What have I done? "Suddenly his tongue as he testified saying," I have to say the words forbidden. "Both hands testified," I have been holding something unlawful. "His eyes also testified," I have seen that is forbidden. "the legs also," I have walked to the unclean. "His cock was saying," I have done it. "the guardian angel said" I've heard it. "the other one said," I've seen it .; Finally God said, "Now I have to know everything and cover it." Then God said, "O My angels, bring him and casts him torment me. I was very angry with someone who has no shame to me. "

History is in accordance with the word of God in the Qur'an Surah an-Nur: 24 "On the day (when) the tongue, hands and their feet bear witness to them of what they used to do.

The greatest sin of adultery is adultery with a sibling, stepmother, and all the women that included a mahram. Judge has stated keshahihan hadith that reads "He who fornicate with women who still mahram then kill it." Friends of Bara 'reported that his uncle (mother's brother) had been sent by the Prophet Muhammad to meet someone who has committed adultery with her stepmother. He was ordered to kill and make her fortune as ghanimah.

We ask God the Giver to forgive all our sins. Indeed, He is Most Gracious, the Most Noble.

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Hope it is useful

By: Said Alwin

Repentance and Istighfar To Sin 200 Times fornicate !!!

Grandfather Sholeh Forgotten Story

"Say: 'O My servants who go beyond the limits of themselves, do not despair of the mercy of God. Indeed, Allah forgives all sins. Verily He is the Oft-Forgiving, Most Merciful "(QS. 39:53)

That morning in Madinah Al Munawarah in an opportunity Umrah in 2007, a chaplain supervisor confronted by a congregation at breakfast in the hotel restaurant. The congregation of the cleric asked for time to consult a bit of a problem. "Ustadz ..., is when someone has a mounting sins then he repent and ask forgiveness of Allah then repentance will be accepted?" Smiling, the cleric replied lightly, "Of repentance will God accept!" "But teachers, there is a friend of mine who happens to being berumrah and there in Medina today, and it was doubtful if repentance is not accepted by God ...! "continued the congregation.

"Why is he still in doubt ?!" said pack chaplain. "Because he never committed the sin of adultery, Ustadz!" Said the congregation. While revealing a face full of shade and seriousness, the chaplain commented, "The opportunity to repent will always be open for him ...!". "But teachers, adultery that she did not just once ...!" Said the congregation. "So how times adultery is doing ...?" Asked the chaplain curious.

"100 times adultery may ever did, Ustadz!" Added the congregation.

"Astaghfirullahal Adzhiim ....!" Came the chaplain beristighfar because surprised to hear that. Visible color and facial expressions of the cleric changed since keterjutan it. Found that out of the congregation asked once again to his teacher said, "If the sin of adultery as much as it ..., is there any chance to repent for her, Ustadz ?!" The chaplain mengela breath then said, "Sure ..., chance to repent and will always be open for him. Both hands Allah will lie in the night, so that sinners could repent noon time. Both hands will always be open in the daytime, so that sinners in the night had to repent. [1]

The door of repentance is always open to the servant of God all the time. Good afternoon, night, morning or afternoon ... !!! "Hearing this explanation of the congregation feel somewhat comfortable. Murmuring sound of the assembly and then he continued, "I think my friend was not fornicating 100 times deh, Ustadz! "Hear the cleric hope in my heart that the number adultery does not achieve much. But the cleric very surprised when I heard the congregation finish the sentence.

"I think 200 times adultery too much he did ... !!!" added the congregation.

"ASTAGHFIRULLAHAL Azhim .... !!!" The cleric beristighfar to God with a voice louder than ever. Not pictured by the chaplain of the figure of the servant of Allah who dared to commit the sin of adultery that much. The chaplain reflect and think about this depraved human behavior, until the chaplain blush really changed drastically. The congregation found him back chasing, "Ustadz, if sin as much as it .... whether if he repent it will be accepted by God ?! "actual weight of the chaplain arrange careful when hearing these events. But the chaplain tried to smile and reassure his congregation by saying, "Although there is no accounting for sin. Although sin sky-high, even when the whole earth sin. While the servant and istighfar repent to God, then surely Allah will accept the repentance and forgive him! [2]

Answer cleric last made the congregation feel relieved. He began to smile and then said, "Thank God ...., If so then I will convey this news to my friend's. Hopefully he is confident that God will accept the repentance. But the cleric, so he can hear directly ... can I ask him to meet with the chaplain? ". "With pleasure I am willing to meet with him. Please come to room 709. I wait yes in room 8 o'clock this morning ...! Ustadz pack light. A moment later the chaplain left the congregation at a restaurant table. He went to his room as he continued to say forgiveness to Allah because it is difficult to imagine how great the sin committed by a servant of Allah as told his congregation. He came into the room, and then promptly at 8 am, the chaplain heard a knock on her door by someone. The chaplain swiftly rose to open the door, and he suspects behind the door now stood two men. The first is the assembly of the familiar, and the other is a friend of his congregation that he never committed the sin of adultery even 200 times more!

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Unfortunately ..., so the chaplain opened the door it turns out there just standing male figure that no other is its own congregation. "Where is your best friend wants to consult ...?" The cleric asked. "At first he had wanted to here, but after thinking for a while, he sent me just to see chaplain. He said he met with religious teacher embarrassed! "Said the congregation. "Well then, please come in!" Said the chaplain pack. The congregation was then entered into the chaplain room. He sat in one of the chairs in the room. Little initial conversation opener atmosphere began to be heard, until the congregation was again asked the same thing to the cleric, "What if the sin of adultery even up to 200 times will be forgiven by God if the servant would repent ... ?!" The chaplain tries to convince the various kinds of arguments of the Quran and the hadith which states that Allah is oft repentance. Many times after the chaplain read the proposition asserted, "Surely Allah will accept the repentance of His servants !!!" answers cleric was apparently was quite a relief for the congregation. After discussion during half hours finally the congregation then shook the hands of the chaplain. With teary eyes of the assembly and said, "Ustadz please excuse me ..., evil people who commit adultery more than 200 times that no other is the man !!! I" Like a lightning struck the cleric very surprised to hear that. Like do not believe hear the narrative, his eyes staring at the congregation cleric who is now crying in front of him from top to bottom until he looked at the same way over and over again. "How could he do all this sin ... ?!" muttered the cleric in the liver. But the cleric realized that he was guaranteeing the door of repentance for adultery as much as this. He will not pull his words again! Finally, the chaplain embraced his congregation and no warmth of faith that is now spreading in through the recesses of the heart of the congregation.

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"Forgive me, Ustadz! I had to lie in this matter. I was initially worried cleric would be angry with me if I do know this much sin ... So I pretend that that does this is my best friend. I really want to repent to Allah for the sins of adultery that I've ever done. Especially now that Allah has given my wife a veiled shalihah. Even my two children are girls. Every time you want to leave the house, I am very worried when the three of them would digagahi by another man, as I often do with many women. I could not bear sin, Ustadz ... !!! "The chaplain felt pity and compassion to hear the narrative of repentance a congregation. Some tips to repent and beristighfar taught by the chaplain to sobriety congregation. Finally after getting the peace of mind that, the congregation said goodbye and chaplain also remove up to the front door of the room. Then the door was closed again.

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The chaplain inhale a deep breath after the guests leave. Now the chaplain began to understand how heavy the burden of sin that is borne by the perpetrators. And how after repent and beristighfar to God there are a lot of peace, tranquility and peace of soul. "It's repentance and forgiveness will bring people who carry it out clean soul and mind !!!" Ustadz knot pack.