Unfinished journey (190)
(Part one hundred ninety, Depok, West Java, Indonesia,
January 23, 2015, 18:51 pm)
Keisha and Alisa, my two grand daughter |
Married: Sustenance and dating is set God.
March 8, 1986 I got married in my in-laws house in
Cempaka Putih, East Jakarta, at the age of 26 years, while my wife was 21 years
old, I was only two years as a reporter in the National News Agency Antara.
Words, the Ustad (Islamic Preacher), if we have good
intentions, let alone get married which is the Sunnah of the Prophet, surely
God will provide convenience and sustenance that come unexpectedly.
I was with a salary of Rp 125,000 per month when it
actually is not ready financially to marry, or to finance the wedding.
However, because of my good intentions, I was forced to
sell my vespa motorcycle, everyday I use to cover.
Vespa it is I bought the rest of my money working as a
dishwasher results in the Chinese restaurant, King Restaurant in Fresno,
California when I was in college in the country. When the dishwasher work I was
able to buy a new car sedan Dodge Colt, when I go home I sell the car, and to
Indonesia money just to buy a a Vespa.
Vespa sold Rp 900,000, I deposited all to the in-laws for
a wedding reception party costs aids.
My office mates law, including leadership (Chairman)
Reporters Unit East Jakarta Kamsul Hasan
(now a senior editor Pos Kota newspaper).
At the time of reception Kamsul Hasan as Chief of the
Mayor of East Jakarta correspondent joint secretary Syamsurizal Unit (Daily
reporter Pelita) and some journalists on behalf journalist friends came to the
reception.
At the time shake Kamsul Hasan give Envelopes members who
put my coat, he said this is the result of a donation envelope fellow reporters
and who know me in East Jakarta.
The next day when I opened the envelope was found to
contain Rp 1,250,000. The money was then I bought a new Vespa, so I went back
to work and can cover easily because you want to marry a former Vespa sales,
even after mating have a power to buy a new Vespa motorcicle.
In essence, the provision has been arranged by God, God
will give us sustenance that comes sometimes we do not think not.
Lest we do not want to marry, if you do not have enough
money, do not have a home. I have friends remain single until he retired, had a
lot of consideration if you want to marry, want to have a first home was, had
enough money and a lot of consideration.
Whereas the provision that could come after mating. I
want to marry her first child when I was in a state of not having any money,
because it does not work (employment relationship is terminated as a result I
was exposed to stroke, from Beijing Oristar Media), armed with financial aid
from the prospective in-law, and aid in the form of loans from neighbors
(entirely paid off after the reception), Allahamdulilah wedding reception run
smoothly.
Not whether sustenance, marriage and death that is set up
God, has been determined in the book
"Lawh Mahfuz" so why are we afraid of marriage.
Indeed, the name of the provision need not be money, but
could be in the form of convenience and healthy body. And marital happiness is
not only determined the amount of money, but it can be shaped sustenance family
happiness harmony.
I have a friend, her husband a successful businessman,
had a lot of cars, and houses a lot, but his wife from the beginning of
marriage always complain kept no money.
It is now only discovered why her husband was impressed
stingy, apparently has a dozen years her husband had another wife (second wife
/ mistress / nikah siri). Spotted another wife's home life like hell, fighting
continues between husband and wife.
It shows men, rich little remarried (got wife more than
one), but have more than one wife is not easy, he should be fair with his wife.
God in the hadith warn the men who are not fair to their wives, in the
hereafter would like stroke, walk sideways withered body.
Justify had two wives could be happy:
'' You do not like me, had two wives can make stress, old
wives jealous in young and otherwise, '' said one of my uncle former village
headman in Teritip, Gunumg Tembak , Balikpapan, told me in 2000.
I have a friend he was already 70 years old, still
healthy and still work, already have two grandchildren of two children, and had
a beautiful wife. But in this age already twilight he tempted lust marries a
young widow childless one. As a result she was divorced by his wife, children
and grandchildren were all isolate, never visited him again. Poor old age that
he is now a lot of daydreaming, loneliness, that his new wife's again return
home. So be careful with the seductive devil who continue to tempt people and
continue to divorcing couples.
Prophet sallallaahu alaihi wa sallam said: "Allaah
has set all the destiny of all creatures from fifty thousand years before God
created the heavens and the earth". (HR. Muslim, no. 2653).
"No misfortune can happen on earth and (nor) in
yourselves but it is inscribed in the Book (Lawh Mahfuz) before We bring it.
Verily it is easy for Allah ". (QS. Al-Hadid: 22).
ISLAMIC CONCEPT OF MARRIAGE
by The
Al-Ustadz Yazid bin Abdul Qadir Jawas
MUQADIMAH
The issue of marriage is a matter that is always current
and always interesting to talk about, because this issue is not only about the
nature of human life and human livelihood but also touches a central agency
that is noble and households. Sublime, since this institution is a stronghold
for the defense of human dignity and values ahlaq noble and central.
Because it is a central institution for the birth and
growth of the Children of Adam, who would have a key role in bringing peace and
prosperity on this earth. According to Islam Bani Adamlah the honor to carry
the divine mandate as caliph in the earth, as the word of Allah Ta'ala.
"Meaning: Remember when your Lord said to the
angels:" I am going to make a vicegerent on earth. "They said:"
Why do you want to make (caliph) on the face of the earth who will make
mischief therein and shed blood, while we always glorify the praise you and
purify you?. Allah says: "Verily I know what you do not know".
[Al-Baqarah: 30].
Marriage is not a small and trivial issue, but it is an
important issue and big. 'Aqad nikah (marriage) is as a solid and holy covenant
(mitsaqon gholidhoo), as represented the word of Allah Ta'ala.
"Meaning: How are you going to take it back, but
some of you have been hanging out (mixed) with the other as husband and wife
and they (wives) have taken from you a strong agreement". [An-Nisa ': 21].
Therefore, it is expected of all parties involved,
especially the parents, maintaining and keeping it sincerely and responsibly.
Islamic religion has given a complete and detailed
instructions on the issue of marriage. Starting from the suggestion to marry,
how to choose an ideal partner, do khitbah (making a proposal), how to educate
children, as well as provide a way out if there was chaos in the household,
until the process nafaqah and the estate, all governed by Islam in detail and
detail.
Furthermore, to understand the Islamic concept of
marriage, then references the most legitimate and correct the Qur'an and Sunnah
Sahih (in accordance with the understanding Salaf Salih -pen), with reference
we will find clarity on aspects of marriage and some irregularities and shifts
the value of marriage in our society.
Of course, not all problems can pour author in this
paper, only a few issues that need to be discussed is about: Man's nature, aim
Marriage in Islam, Procedures and Irregularities In Marriage Marriage.
MARRIAGE IS A HUMAN FITRAH
Islam is a religion fithrah, and man created God Almighty
match this nature, because it is Allaah tells them exposes himself to religion
fithrah to prevent fraud and irregularities. So that humans walking on nature.
Marriage is fithrah humanity, and therefore Islam
advocate for marriage, because marriage is gharizah insaniyah (human instinct).
If gharizah is not filled with a valid path that is marriage, then he will seek
the streets satan that many plunged into the black valley. Word of Allah
Ta'ala.
"Meaning: Then with a straight face hadapkanlah to
religion (God), (still above) the nature of God has created man in the nature.
There is no change in the nature of God. (That's) straight religion, but most
people do not know". [Ar-Rum: 30].
A. Encourage Islamic Marriage
Islam has made a valid marriage bond is based on the
Qur'an and Sunnah as the only means to meet the demands of a very basic human
instincts, and the means to build an Islamic family. Appreciation of Islam
against the marriage bond immense, to the extent that the bond is set
proportional to half of the religion. Anas bin Malik radliyallahu 'anhu said:
"It has been said the Prophet sallallaahu' alaihi wa sallam:
"Meaning: Whoever got married, then he has completed
half of his religion. And let him maintain a pious to God in the other
half". [Hadith History Thabrani and Judge]
B. Islam Not Liking single
Prophet sallallaahu 'alaihi wa sallam commanded to marry
and prohibits loud to people who do not want to get married. Anas bin Malik
radliyallahu 'anhu said: "The Prophet sallallaahu' alaihi wa sallam
ordered us to marriage and forbids us to ban single hard". And he said:
"Meaning: Marry women and children and loving.
Because I will berbanggga with many of my people in front of the Prophet later
on the Day of Resurrection". [Hadith narrated by Ahmad and Ibn Hibban
shahihkan]
Once upon a time three Companions came to ask the wives
of the Prophet sallallaahu 'alaihi wa sallam about worship him, then once
explained, each wanting to improve their worship. One said: As for me, will be
fasting all the time without a break. And another said: As I would stay away
from women, I will not marry forever .... When it was heard by the Prophet
sallallaahu 'alaihi wa sallam, he came out as he said:
"Meaning: Did you guys have said so and so, really
for the sake of Allah, verily I am the most scared and pious among you. But I
fast and I break the fast, I pray and I sleep well and I also marry women.
Whoever does not love the Sunnah, then it is not included golongannku ".
[Hadith Bukhari and Muslim].
People who have sense and bashirah will not want to
plunge himself into the heresy with celibacy. Shaykh Muhammad Yusuf Hussain
said: "Living a life of celibacy is dry and arid, life has no meaning and
purpose. A life devoid of various human virtues which are generally established
on the basis of selfishness and self-centeredness and want apart from all
liability responsibility ".
People who are single are generally only live for
themselves. They single shared passions always roar, to the purity of spirit
and spiritual becomes cloudy. They are always there in the struggle against
nature, despite their devotion reliable, but the upheaval that occurs
continuously over time will weaken the faith and resilience of life and damage
the health and will take him to the valley of contempt.
So people who are reluctant to marry either male or
female, they were actually classified as the most miserable person in this
life. They are the most do not enjoy the happiness of life, both sensual
pleasure and spiritual nature. Maybe they were rich, but they are poor of God's
gifts.
Islam rejects monkhood system because the system is
contrary to human nature, and even the attitude that means against the Sunnah
and the nature of God Almighty who has been assigned to the inhabitants.
Reluctance foster home for fear of poverty is the attitude of the ignorant
(fool), because all sustenance is set by God since the human being in the womb,
and man can not theorize sustenance diakaruniakan God, for example he said:
"If I live alone salary I am pretty, but if the wife had not enough?!
".
These words are the words of vanity, as opposed to the
verses of Allah and the hadiths of the Prophet sallallaahu 'alaihi wa sallam.
God commanded to marry, and if they are indigent surely Allah will help to
provide sustenance to him. God promises a relief to those who married, in his
words:
"Meaning: And kawinkanlah people who alone among
you, and decent people (spouse) of servants sahayamu that men and women. If
they are poor God will enable them with His gifts. And Allah Area (His gift),
Knowing ". [An-Nur: 32]
.
Prophet sallallaahu 'alaihi wa sallam strengthen the
promise of Allah is with his saying:
"Meaning: There are three classes of human beings
who are entitled God help them, which is a mujahid fi sabilillah, a servant who
redeemed himself so independent, and one who married because they want to
preserve his honor". [Hadith narrated by Ahmad 2: 251, Nasa'i, Tirmidhi,
Ibn Majah Hadith No. 2518, and Judge 2: 160 of the companions of Abu Hurayrah
radliyallahu 'anhu].
The Salaf-Salih strongly advocated for their
anti-marriage and celibacy, and do not like to linger on his own.
Ibn Mas'ud radliyallahu 'anhu once said: "If my age
ten days away, really I would rather get married than I have to see God as a
bachelor". [Ihya Ulumuddin and Tuhfatul 'Flow things. 20].
PURPOSE OF MARRIAGE IN ISLAM
[1]. To Meet the Demands of Man The Human Instinct
In the previous article we mentioned that marriage is a
human nature, it is a legitimate way to meet this need is by aqad marriage
(through marriage levels), not in a very dirty disgusting as the ways people
today are with dating, cohabiting, prostitution , commit adultery, lesbian,
gay, and others who have strayed and are forbidden by Islam.
[2]. To Fortify ahlak The Sublime.
The main target of disyari'atkannya marriage in Islam of
which is to fortify the human dignity of gross and heinous act, which has been
lowered and lull the sublime human dignity. Islam considers marriage and family
formation as a means to maintain efefktif young men and women from damage, and
protect society from chaos. Prophet sallallaahu 'alaihi wa sallam said:
"Meaning: O young people! Whoever among you capable
of wedlock, then nikahlah, because marriage is more lowered outlook, and
fortify the vulva (genitals). But those who can not afford, then let him fast
(fasting), because it can shaum fortify himself ". [Sahih Hadith narrated
by Ahmad, Bukhari, Muslim, Tirmidhi, Nasa'i, Darimi, Ibn Jarud and Bayhaqi].
[3]. To Enforce Islamic Households.
In the Qur'an mentioned that Islam justifies Thalaq
(divorce), if the husband and wife are no longer able to enforce the limits of
Allah, as Allah role in the following verse:
"Meaning: Thalaq (which can dirujuki) twice, once
again it may refer to the way ma'ruf or divorce by way of bail. It is not
lawful for you to take back from something that you have given them, except
when both parties fear will not be can execute the laws of God, there is no
blame on either of them given by the wife to redeem himself. that the laws of
Allah, then do not break them. those who violate the laws of God they are the
ones who dhalim ". [Al-Baqarah: 229].
Ie both are not able to implement the Shari'ah of Allah.
And justifiably refer to (re married again) when Both jets able to enforce the
limits of Allah. As mentioned in surah Al-Baqarah verse advanced above:
"Meaning: Then if the husband is menthalaqnya (talaq
after the second), the woman was not lawful for him to be married to another
husband. Then if the other husband divorces her, then there is no sin for both
of them (the former first husband and wife ) to marry again, if they believe
that they can keep God's laws, diternagkannya to people who (want to) know
". [Al-Baqarah: 230]
So the noble purpose of marriage is to implement the
Shari'ah Sialm husband and wife in the household. Law enforcement households
based Shari'ah is mandatory. Therefore every muslim who wants to build an
Islamic household, the Islamic teachings have provided some of the criteria of
an ideal potential partner, namely: Should kafa'ah and Shalihah.
[a]. Kafa'ah According to Islamic Concept
The influence of materialism has many befall parents. Not
a few of today's parents have thought, that in looking for a soul mate for
their child, always consider the equilibrium position, social status and
descent alone. While religious consideration received less attention. Kufu
problem '(equal, equal) only measured through the material.
According to Islam, kafa'ah or similarity, equivalence or
equivalent in a marriage, it is considered very important due to the similarity
between the husband and wife, then attempt to set up and establish an Islamic
household inysa God will manifest. But kafa'ah according to Islam is only
measured by the quality of faith and piety and ahlaq someone, social status,
descent and others. God looks at the degree of a person's well that Arabs and
non-Arabs, poor or rich. There is no difference of the two, but the degree
taqwanya [Al-Hujurat: 13]
"Meaning: O mankind! We created you from a male and
a female and made you nations and tribes that ye may know each other know.
Verily, the most honorable among you in the sight of Allah are those who most
pious among you. Allah is Knower Know ". [Al-Hujurat: 13].
And they remain sekufu 'and there is no obstacle for them
to marry each other. Mandatory for parents, young men and women who still
berfaham mempertahanakan materialist and customs of their compulsory leave and
return to the Qur'an and Sunnah that Saheeh. Word of the Prophet sallallaahu
'alaihi wa sallam:
"Meaning: Women marry because of four things:
Because of his wealth, because their offspring, because of her beauty, and
because of his religion. Then you shall select as religion (all Islamannya),
because if not, you will undoubtedly harm". [Hadith Shahi Bukhari 6: 123,
Muslim 4: 175]
[b]. Choosing The Shalihah
People who want to marry must choose shalihan woman and
the woman should choose a righteous man. According to the Qur'an shalihah woman
is:
"Meaning: Women who shalihah is that obediently to
God again maintain themselves if the husband does not exist, as God has kept
(them)". [An-Nisaa: 34]
According to the Qur'an and the Sahih Al-Hadith among the
characteristics of women who shalihah is:
"Obediently to God, obediently to the Apostle,
Wearing the veil that covers the entire private parts and not to show off the
beauty (tabarruj) as an ignorant woman (Al-Ahzab: 32), not being alone with men
who are not mahram, obediently to both Parents in goodness, obediently to the
husband and kind to neighbors and so forth ".
If these criteria are met Insha Allah Islamic household
will be realized. In addition, the Prophet sallallaahu 'alaihi wa sallam
advocated to choose women who peranak (many offspring) and compassionate in
order to give birth to the next generation of people.
[4]. To Increase To Worship God.
According to the Islamic concept, live fully included to
worship Allah and do good to our fellow human beings. From this perspective,
the household is one of the hotbeds for worship and good deeds in addition to
worship and righteous deeds that others, to the extent that his wife fuck-was
included worship (ALMS).
Prophet sallallaahu 'alaihi wa sallam said:
"Meaning: If you have intercourse with your wives
including alms. Hear the words of the Companions of the Messenger of
astonishment and asked:" O Messenger of Allah, a husband against his wife
to satisfy his desire to be rewarded? "The Prophet sallallaahu 'alaihi wa
sallam replied:" How do you think if they (the husbands) in addition to
copulate with his wife, they are not innocent.? "Answer the
Companions:" Yeah, right ". He said again:" So it is when they
have intercourse with his wife (in a halal), they will get the reward! ".
[Hadith Sahih Muslim History 3:82, Ahmad 5: 1167 -168 and Nasa with Saheeh
isnaad].
[5]. To Finding Descendants The Salih.
The purpose of marriage of which is to preserve and
develop the children of Adam, God said:
"Meaning: God has made of the selves you were a
married couple and has given you from your wives, the children and
grandchildren, and made provision of good-good. So will they believe in
falsehood and deny favors of Allah? ". [An-Nahl: 72]
And the most important thing in marriage is not merely to
have children, but trying to find a quality and form generation, which is
looking for a righteous son and devoted to God.
Surely the righteous descendants will not be obtained,
but with the correct Islamic education. We mention this because a lot of
"Institute of Islamic Education", but the content and how un-Islamic.
So much we see the children of the Muslims do not have Islamic ahlaq, caused
due to wrong education. Therefore, the husband and wife are responsible to
educate, teaching, and directing children to the right path.
About the purpose of marriage in Islam, Islam also
considers that the establishment of the family as a way to realize the
objectives larger covering various aspects of society based on Islam which will
have a major influence and fundamental to the existence of Muslims and Muslims.
PROCEDURES FOR MARRIAGE IN ISLAM
Islam has given a clear concept about the way of marriage
based on the Qur'an and Sunnah Sahih (according to the understanding of the
Salaf Salih -peny), briefly author mentioned and explained as necessary:
[1]. Khitbah (making a proposal)
A Muslim man who would marry a Muslim woman should he
propose first, because it is possible he was in the nut by others, in this case
Islam forbids a Muslim woman who was the groom proposed by others (muttafaq
'alaihi). In khitbah disunnahkan see the face that will groom (Sahih Hadith
narrated by Ahmad, Abu Dawud, Tirmidhi No. 1093 and Darimi).
[2]. aqad Marriage
In aqad marriage there are some requirements and
obligations that must be met:
a. The presence of both consensual bride.
b. The existence Ijab qabul.
c. The existence of Mahar.
d. The presence of the Mayor.
e. The presence of witnesses.
And according to the sunnah before marriage aqad held
first sermon called Khutbatun Marriage or Khutbatul intent.
[3]. walimah
Walimatul 'urusy obligatory and be simple and should be
invited in walimah poor people. Prophet sallallaahu 'alaihi wa sallam said
about inviting the rich just mean the food was as bad as the bad food.
Prophet sallallaahu 'alaihi wa sallam.
"Meaning: The worst food is the only food in walimah
inviting people to eat rich, while the poor are not invited. Those who did not
attend the invitation walimah, then he disobedience to Allah and His
Messenger". [Hadith Sahih Muslim History 4: 154 and Bayhaqi 7: 262 of Abu
Hurayrah]
As a cautionary note should be invited to the righteous
people, rich and poor, because there are words of the Prophet sallallaahu
'alaihi wa sallam:
"It means: Do you get along but with the believers
and do not eat your food, but those who fear Him". [Hadith Sahih History
Abu Dawud, Tirmidhi, Judge 4: 128 and 3:38 Ahmad from Abu Sa'eed al-Khudri].
SOME irregularities REQUIRED TO OCCUR IN MARRIAGE avoided
/ REMOVED.
[1]. courtship
Most people prior to mate normally "Dating" in
advance, this is usually regarded as an individual introductory period, or
period of assessment or considered as an embodiment of a sense of love for the
opposite sex.
An assumption like this, then gave birth to a consensus
shared among the various parties to consider courtship as something normal and
perfectly natural. This feeling is wrong and mistaken assumption. In dating is
certainly not inevitable from berintim intimate two people of the opposite sex,
there occurred touch of view look and touch, which is clear everything is
forbidden according to Islamic Shariah.
Prophet sallallaahu 'alaihi wa sallam said:
"It means: Do not ever a man be alone with a woman,
but the woman was with mahram". [Sahih Hadith narrated by Ahmad, Bukhari
and Muslim].
So in Islam there is no chance of dating and courtship is
haraam.
[2]. The ring exchange.
In making a proposal usually no exchange rings as a sign
of the bond, it is not from Islam. (See Adabuz-Zifaf, Shaykh Nasir al-Albani)
[3]. The High Demanding dowry.
According to Islam the best of dowry is a cheap and easy,
not difficult or expensive. Indeed, the dowry was the right woman, but Islam
suggested that simplify and prohibits high dowry demands.
The story of a woman's warning against Umar that limit
women's dowry, is a story that is wrong because the history is very weak. [See
Irwa'ul Ghalil 6, p. 347-348].
[4]. Following the Ceremony.
Islamic teachings and regulations should be higher than
anything else. Every event, ceremonies and customs that are contrary to Islam,
then it is obligatory to be eliminated. Generally Muslims in the way marriage
is always exalt and flatter local customs, so sunnah-Sunnah of the Prophet
sallallaahu 'alaihi wa sallam true and authentic have them shut down and
extinguish.
How ironic ...!. To those who still menuhankan customs
ignorance and insulting the Islamic concept, meaning they do not believe in
Islam.
Allah Subhanahu wa Ta'ala says:
"Meaning: Is ignorance of law they want, and (legal)
who is better than the (law) of Allah for those who believe?".
[Al-Maaidah: 50]
People who are looking for concepts, rules, and
procedures other than Islam, it will never again be accepted by God and later
in the Hereafter they will be the losers, as the word of Allah, the Exalted:
"Meaning: Whoever seeks a religion other than Islam,
it occasionally will not be accepted (the religion) thereof, and in the
Hereafter he is among those who lose". [Ali-Imran: 85].
[5]. People say Congratulations Ala Ignorance.
The ignorance always use words Birafa 'Wal Banin, when
congratulate the bride and groom. Speech Birafa 'Wal Banin (hopefully cheap
bride sustenance and many children) is prohibited by Islam.
From Al-Hasan, that 'Aqil ibn Abi Talib marriage with a
woman from Jasyam. Guests congratulated by saying ignorance: Birafa 'Wal Banin.
'Aqil ibn Abi Talib forbid them saying: "Do not say that!. Because the
Prophet shallallhu' alaihi wa sallam prohibit such speech". Guests asked:
"So what should we say, O Abu Zaid?". 'Aqil explains:
"Say: Barakallahu lakum wa Baraka 'Alaiykum"
(Hopefully God give you blessings and bestow upon you a blessing). Such words
are ordered Prophet sallallaahu 'alaihi wa sallam. "[Hadith Sahih Ibn Abi
Abi Shaybah History, Darimi 2: 134, Nasa'i, Ibn Majah, Ahmad 3: 451, and
others].
Regular prayer that the Prophet sallallaahu 'alaihi wa
sallam say to a bride is:
"Wa laka Baarakallahu baarakaa 'alaiyka wa Jama'a
baiynakumaa FII KHOIR"
Benediction is based on the hadeeth narrated from Abu
Hurayrah:
"Meaning: From Abu Hurayrah, that the Prophet
sallallaahu 'alaihi wa sallam when congratulate a bride, he made supplication:
(Baarakallahu laka wabaraka' alaiyka wa Jama'a baiynakuma KHOIR FII) Hopefully
God give blessing, easy- I hope God pours out blessings upon you and hopefully
he unified the two of you in goodness ". [Sahih Hadith narrated by Ahmad
2:38, Tirmidhi, Darimi 2: 134, Judge 2: 183, Ibn Majah and Bayhaqi 7: 148].
[6]. Ikhtilath existence.
Ikhtilath is the mixing of men and women to occur
perspective view, tap the touch, handshake between man and woman. According to
Islam between the bridegroom and women should be separated, so that what we
have mentioned above can be avoided everything.
[7]. Other violations.
Other violations are often carried out among them is the
frenetic music.
khatimah
Ideal households according to the teachings of Islam are
covered households Sakinah (peace of soul), Mawaddah (love) and Rahmah
(compassion), Allah says:
"Meaning: And among His signs is that He created his
wives for you from your kind alone, and ye shall live peacefully with him. And
he (also) has made of you (husband, wife) love and affection. Indeed in this is
truly there are signs for a people who reflect. "[Ar-Rum: 21].
In an Islamic household, a husband and wife must
understand the shortcomings and advantages, and should also know the rights and
obligations as well as understand the task and fungsiya each of which must be
carried out in a responsible manner.
So the effort to realize the marriage and households that
got keridla'an God can be realized, but given the human condition that can not
be separated from the weaknesses and shortcomings, while the trials and
tribulations always accompany human life, it is not rare couples who originally
lived a quiet, peaceful and happy suddenly hit by a "crisis" discord
and strife.
When you have strived for peace as mentioned in the
Qur'an Surat an-Nisa ': 34-35, but it still fails, then Islam gives a last
resort, the "divorce".
Let us attempt to obligate Islamic marriage and establish
an Islamic household, and we shall leave rules, ordinances, ceremonies and
customs that are contrary to Islam. The teachings of Islam is the only true
doctrine and diridlai by Allaah [Ali-Imran: 19]
"Meaning: Our Lord, anugrahkanlah to us wives and
offspring who soothing us, and make us Imam for those who fear Him".
[Al-Furqan: 140].
Ameen.
Allaah a'alam sowab bish.
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