Death (Death): Do not know the age, rich, poor.

Unfinished journey (189)

(Part one hundred and eighty-nine, Depok, West Java, Indonesia, January 22, 2015, 8:24 pm)

  Death (Death): Do not know the age, rich, poor.

Around 1987 and in front of the house of Mr Sabran, in Dormitory Kobekdam V Jaya Small Cililitan, East Jakarta around 19:00 pm we talked with about five friends my age (average age 17 years).

One of my colleagues, who lived right behind my house number 52, jokingly (saying): '' I do not want to die before I got  marry (marriage), ''

The next day, one day later around 22:00 pm, I heard the news, if you have ever said above that concerned had died in serempet (hit by) bus Pelita Jaya Mas (the 1970s before the busway, on the road Jakarta public passenger bus dominated by private bus, in addition to bus Damri (SOE), there is also a bus Pelita Jaya Mas, Arion and the still exis until now is bis Mayasari Bhakti) around Cawang, East Jakarta. His partner, who he ride on a bicycle in the back of a motorcycle, also my neighbor who lives on the left side of my house survived, unharmed.

In the 1970s when I was in grade 5 elementary schools in the State Primary School 1 Balikpapan, I live in Central New Village, my neighbor, right in front of my house, there was a young man of about 25 years, he was known as a good man, diligent prayer, patient, never to be seen fighting with peers.

On one day he, without ever kedengaram never sick, he reportedly died.

This shows that all living things, including humans would feel dead (died), if he is not married, or considerate attitude.

Only God is the creator of the one who knows the unseen matter, both died affairs, marriage and our sustenance, God in the book "Lawh Mahfuz" seperrti contained in the Word of the Prophet Muhammad, as well as in the word of God just told us, that every event including the leaves are falling from the branches also have written of God in this book.

Prophet sallallaahu alaihi wa sallam said: "Allaah has set all the destiny of all creatures from fifty thousand years before God created the heavens and the earth". (HR. Muslim, no. 2653).

"No misfortune can happen on earth and (nor) in yourselves but it is inscribed in the Book (Lawh Mahfuz) before We bring it. Verily it is easy for Allah ". (QS. Al-Hadid: 22).

We still remember the crash of Air Asia majors Surabaya-Singapore recently, the plane that crashed into a mountain Sulhoi Salak, West Java, there is a small plane crashed in the United States, which killed the pilot and other family members unless there is a six-year-old girl survivors, there are private jets that carry oil kings, and one of the richest men in the Middle East, crashed when flying to travel to Morocco, killing all passengers except for a pilots who survived. We still remember one of the US conglomerate owners supermarket chain Wall-Mart was also killed in a plane crash.

This proves, that as powerful and sophisticated as any technology owned the plane, can not fight destiny God. Whether he was rich, poor, young maih, already old, and did not know the sex of any religion or background.

We still remember the days of King Nimrod Pharaoh thousands of years ago which has been enshrined in the Quran, was so ruling him as a king, to elevate himself as God.

However, eventually Nimrod and his troops killed in Allah drowned in the Dead Sea when chasing Moses. Nimrod corpse was later found the locals on the beach, then there are people who recognize the bodies of Nimrod as the former king, then after in Balm (mummy) is buried in a pyramid, the researchers then when checking out (autopsy) these bodies (via DNA) note that Nimrod allegedly killed by drowning in the water.

As good as any human would definitely feel the dead (deceased), the Prophet himself although there are hundreds of years old (the prophet adam) still died, the Prophet Muhammad who became the elect of God as the Prophet died at a young age, 63 years, is still far in Bob compare Sadino, wealthy businessman owner Kem Chick God given opportunity to live up to the age of the '80s.

So what can we boast in ourselves this, the rich man like Bob Sadino supermarket owner Kem Chick, owner of the Wall-Mart in America Tuft, the king of oil from the Middle East, President Suharto, who told Time magazine had deposits USD trillions of dollars were not avert death (Death).

See the former most powerful man in the world, Ronald Reagan, former President of the United States, Stalin, leader of the Soviet Union, German Chancellor Adolf Hitler, Mao Tse Tung Chinese leader, President Sukarno, Joseph Kennedy, the most clever doctor was not able to extend their age.

I've got a friend, at a poor time, he was diligent prayer, fasting, when the latter so rich has many apartments many cars, when I was playing in his office, in the month of Ramadan, he no longer looks assiduous prayer and fasting.

Because a lot of money he often traveled abroad, on one day he fell ill, and went to the hospital the most expensive in Indonesia and outside the State, but his life was not helped, without him ever felt Hajj (Pilgrimage) to the holy land of Mecca and Medina, Saudi Arabia, but in terms of financial and health he has been exposed to an obligation to run pillars. Innalillahi Wainnailaihi Rojiun (All creatures of God will return to the almighty creator).

Do not be like King Nimrod, breath until in the throat, he would acknowledge the unity of God. Before the death arrives, we bertaubatlah, with consistently praying five times, and many seek forgiveness, remembrance and glorify setaip moment. Hopefully all the sins we have done in the world forgiven God is All-forgiving. Because God in his word said he would forgive the sins of any, without a care, for people who want to repent, and away from shirk (to double the Lord).

If we die (die), what we bring, what our wealth, our wives and children, or our office, we only carry the shroud that was wrapped in the body (white cloth), in addition to our deeds during life in the world.

As mentioned in the Qur'an and hadith, in the Day of Judgment (Judgment) later when humans are raised, the problem of human relationship with God first in Tanya God is about prayer, if we consistently pray five times a healthy condition or illness.

Meanwhile, the second problem which asked God is a matter of blood (human relations), how our relationship together both biological parents, Seed-siblings, fellow human beings either with a fellow Muslim or non-Muslim, our good relations with our neighbors, problem accounts payable, and other business issues, what we treat them well, lest we hurt (let alone kill) them, remember Allah warns us in his word, if we kill the children of Adam, sin like we killed all mankind, and when we save a human life, the reward if we help people in the world.

If we die (die) only stay three actions that we can still get to the dead, the first prayer pious child (always keep the prayer), the second charity (alms family, such as feeding the poor, orphans, widows, poor) the reward for our dead, and the third science beneficial to humans. This is the third practice which is not interrupted. God in his Word says every man during his life, certainly never sinned, large or small, but God is the creator also merciful and compassionate to mankind, he would give amnesty to people who repent, regardless of whatever the servant of sin (except Shirk). Because idolatry require special repentance, he was no longer allowed to double the Lord, or regard the Son and God had other shirk, before the end of his life and many istigfar, remembrance, prayer beads in addition to prayer five times a day.

The importance of forgiveness, remembrance and prayer beads is to be warned of God in the Qur'an and Hadith, Allah will destroy all humans, and will create a new man, if there are no more people who want to seek forgiveness (ask Allah Forgive), remembrance, prayer beads and Tahmid.

Istighfar recommended, astaghfirullahalazim (O Allah, forgive all the sins of the Servant)

Recitation (rosary): Subhan Allah (Praise and glory of God)

Wallamdulilah (Praise be to God)

Laillahailaulah (There is no god worthy of diibadahi, except Allah)

Allahu Akbar (Allah is Great).

Wallakhauwalakauwataillabillah.

It is recommended to read Surat Al-Ikhlas 10 times the lifetime at least once, or every month, or if we have any time to spare, because the reward is equal to 2/3 of us read the entire contents of the Koran (see Hadith of the Prophet Muhammad).

Dying (when death arrives)

In language the word is derived from the word death: ajila-ya'jalu-dying [late]. According to al-Khalil al-Farahidi in Kitab al-'Ayn and ash-Sahib ibn 'Ages in Al-Muhith fi al-Lughah, said ash-syay'u ajila ya'jalu wahuwa âjilun means naqîdu al-'âjil (opponent from immediately). Thus, al-die (plural al-âjalu) linguistically means late or delayed.

Moreover, in the language, the word death also has several meanings as follows:

● ghayah al-waqti fi al-mawti mahalu ad-dayn wa wa nahwuhu (end time on death and maturity of debt and the like) (Al-Azhari, Tahdheeb al-Lughah).

● Muddah ash-syay'i (a period of something) (Ibn Manzhur, Lisan al-'Arab; al-Jauhari, Ash-Sihah fi al-Lughah).

● Muddatuhu wa al-ladzî waqtuhu yahillu Fihi (duration and the time when something is gone) (Al-Fayumi, Mishbâh al-Munir).

● Duration set to something or act (Rawas Qal'ahji, Mu'jam Lughah al-fuqaha ').

● When set to end something (Abu Hilal al-'Askari, al-Furûq al-Lughawiyah).

From here death of al-insan (human death) is the end of one's life or ending a person's age. That is, when a person's death arrives, then also the death came to pick him up.

In the Qur'an the word death and bentukannya mentioned about 55 times. Among the sense of period (eg Surah al-Baqarah [2]: 231, 232, 234, 235; al-Araf [7]: 135); age (eg; Surah Al-Araf [7]: 34; Jonah [10]: 11, 49); end of life / end of life (eg: Surat an-Nahl [16]: 61; Fathir [35]: 45).

Because Death: The End of Doom

The verses of the Koran that qath'i tsubut and qath'i dilalah stated with certainty that Allah alone Substances The turning on and off. Allah says:

والله يحيي ويميت

God turn on and off (Surah Ali Imran [3]: 156).

The Quran also confirms this in many other passages (see: Surah al-Baqarah [2]: 73, at-Tawbah [9]: 116, Jonah [10]: 56, al-Hajj [22]: 6, al -Mu'minun [23]: 80, al-Hadid [57]: 2).

Allah has set a death for every nation and as individuals. Death, namely impending doom, has been timed as a statute of God that can not be brought forward or pushed back. Allah says:

وما كان لنفس أن تموت إلا بإذن الله كتابا مؤجلا

Animate something that will not die but with the permission of Allah as the provisions of the predetermined time (Surah Ali Imran [3]: 145).

ما تسبق من أمة أجلها وما يستأخرون

No one else people may precede death, nor can backed it (Surat al-Hijr [15]: 5; al-Muminun [23]: 43)

Similar statements among others are in: Surah Yunus [10]: 49; an-Nahl [16]: 61 and Surah al-Munafiqun [63]: 11. So, endless death or the coming of death is something that definitely (al-'Ankabut [29]: 5). Because death is certainly the arrival of the man will not be able to run away from him. Allah confirms:

قل إن الموت الذي تفرون منه فإنه ملاقيكم

Say, "The death from which you flee from him in any case remain will see you." (Surah al-Jumu'ah [62]: 8).

Allah also asserts:

أينما تكونوا يدرككم الموت ولو كنتم في بروج مشيدة

Wherever you are, death will find you even though you are in a high fortress again solid (Surat an-Nisa '[4]: 78).

This verse confirms, if the attempt to escape from death-by the way to fortify themselves from what he thought was the cause of the coming death as he took refuge in the fortress high again very sturdy even-then it will not be able to spare him from death. Therefore, all suspected as the cause of death was either sick, war, etc., is actually not the cause of death. These are just a condition in which death occurs sometimes, but sometimes it does not.

Such texts assert that the only cause of death is endless death, namely the expiration of the period prescribed for humans; or impending doom, the arrival of the final frontier of human life. That's when God turned it off by sending the Angel of Death to deprive the soul from the body (Surat as-Sajda [32]: 11).

The problem of death is exactly like the problem of sustenance. Death and age everyone has been established by God. Allah also insisted will not promote or suspend the person's death. God is not going to increase or decrease a person's age ration. In Surah al-Munafiqun [63]: 11, God reveals to Ian said that the disclaimer forever (See also: Surah Fatir [35]: 11).

Impending doom is sure, can not be promoted or pushed back. Jihad, preaching, enjoining the good and forbidding the munkar, correcting ruler, etc., will not hasten death or reducing lifespan. Similarly, silent, not jihad, not preaching, not correcting ruler, not beramar good and forbidding unjust, and not do anything that seems risky to bring death, indeed can not rewind the death and will not extend the life. All that clearly and unequivocally expressed by the verses of the Koran as above.

Indeed, there is the Prophet. as follows:

من سره أن يبسط له رزقه أو ينسأ له فى أثره فليصل رحمه

Anyone who likes dilapangkan sustenance and plus age let him stay in touch (Bukhari, Muslim, Abu and Ahmad).

Also there are some traditions semisalnya. In this case, what is meant by the aging of not delay death. That increased age is nothing but a blessing in obedience to God. It could also increase its meaning is not the biological age, but the age of sociological, namely heritage, trail or atsar al-'umri her that continues to bring benefits and rewards after biological death. Abu Darda said that the Messenger of Allah. once said:

إن الله لا يؤخر نفسا إذا جاء أجلها, وإنما زيادة العمر بالذرية الصالحة يرزقها العبد, فيدعون له من بعده, فيلحقه دعاؤهم في قبره, فذلك زيادة العمر

Surely God will not end a (death) if someone has come death. Indeed, increasing age was the pious offspring that God has given a servant, and they pray for him after his death so that their prayers menyusulinya in his grave. That increased age (Ibn Abi Hatim quoted by al-Haafiz Ibn Kathir in his Tafseer Surah Fatir: 11).

In addition pious child, another tradition states that useful knowledge, charity jariah and Sunnah hasanah will also extend the life of sociological someone. The culprit, although biologically dead, as if he was still alive and work with all of them and be rewarded accordingly.

Thus, there is no point in running away from death. Death also should not be feared because it definitely came from. The attitude of fear of death and attempt to escape from death, which must have come to be regarded as ignorant attitude and effort are wasted. What should be done is to prepare himself for the coming of death and kept themselves so that death comes in the condition we were performing obedience so that we get Husnul khatimah. This is a smart attitude and effort are efficient. The most intelligent people are the most numerous and the most excellent preparations to welcome the coming of death. Ibn Umar narrated, the Prophet. was asked, who is the most intelligent believer? He replied:

أكثرهم للموت ذكرا وأحسنهم له استعدادا قبل أن ينزل بهم أولئك من الأكياس

They are the most deadly and most well considering his preparation to face death before descending to them. Those that included the most intelligent believer (Ibn Majah, al-Hakim, al-Bayhaqi, Abu Nu'aim and ath-Thabrani).

Wa Ma tawfîqî illa Billah. [Yahya Abdurrahman]

THE FIRST TIME IN THE LAST DAY IS judged Prayers

From Huraith bin Qabishah, he said: I reached Madina. He said: "O Allah make it easy for me (got) a good friend sitting. Then I sat down to Abu Hurairah. He said: I said: "I pray to God (Allah) the Most Noble and Most Great -to make it easy for me to sit a good friend, then please let Me hadeeth that you heard from the Messenger saw.- May God give me the benefit of the ". He said: I heard the Messenger of Allah. said: "Surely something most first judged on the slave is his prayer. If prayer is good then he has won and successfully. If prayer is broken then he has lost ". Hammam said: I do not know, this is from the word Qatada or riwavat. If from fardhunya no deficiencies, Allah says: "Look, if my servant has sunnat prayer, then fard that less can be improved. Then so that's how the whole menghisab charity ". (Hadith takhrijed by An Nasa'i).

From Abu Hurairah ra. of the Prophet., he said: "Something was first calculated on the slave is his prayer, if he perfected it. If not (perfect) then Allah the Exalted and Almighty says: "See if My servant has (prayer) circumcision?". If caught him (prayer) circumcision, then Allah says: "complete the fard it to him". (Hadith takhrijed by Ibn Majah).

Of Tamim ad-From ra. of the Prophet, he said: "Something that is first calculated on the servant in the Qiyamat is prayer. If he perfected it so noted for her prayers circumcision. If he does not improve it, God the Holy One said to the angels: "See if you encounter circumcision prayer for my servant? then complete the fardhu him utter. Then his deeds are taken according to the calculations ". (Hadith takhrijed by Abu Dawood).

From Anas ibn Hakim Adh Dhabi -he faint of Ziyad ibn Ziyad or she comes in Medina and met with AburHurairah said: He asked described offspring, then I show nasabku: Abu Hurayrah said: "O young man, would I tell hadith to you?". I replied: "Well, may God give thee grace". Jonah said: "Sava heard he menuturkannya of the Prophet. said: "Sesunguhnva deeds servant who first calculated on the day of Qiyamat is prayer". He said: Our Lord Almighty and Exalted said to the angels -padahal He knows best: "Behold my servant prayer, it enhance or detract. If prayer was perfect according to the number of perfection for him. If he has a prayer of circumcision then Allah says: "My servant will shape for fardhunya of sunatnva". Then deeds were taken like that. (Hadith takhrijed by Abu Dawood).

From Ibn Abbas., He said: Rasululah Allah. said: "My Lord came to me in as good-good shape". He said: "I suspect he was sleeping". He said: "So in the hadith". Lord said: "O Muhammad, do you know in terms of whether Al Malaul a'la (perfect group) that fight?".

He said: "I said" no ". He said: "So He put His hands on both belikatku, so I find coolness until both my milk". Or he said: "In my neck, so I know what is in the heavens and on earth".

He said: "O Muhammad, do you know in terms of whether Al Malaul a'la (perfect group) that fight?" I replied: "Yes". He said: "In the eraser, the eraser is silent in the mosque after prayers, walk to the congregation, complete ablution over things that are not favored. Whoever is doing that then he lived well, and die well, and in error as the day is born by his mother. He said: "O Muhammad, if you have prayer then say:

'US ALLAAHUMMA ALUKA FI'LAL KHAIRATI WATARAL MUNKARAATI WAHUBBUL MASAAKIINI WA IDZA ARADTA BI'IBAADIKA FITNATAN FAQBIDLNII ILAIKA GHAIRA MAFTUNIN "

(O Allah, I beg Thee good deeds, leave kemungkaran, and love to the poor. If you want to slander my servant then turn off by You without-terfitnah ".

He said: "To the degree that was broadcast greeting, feeding, evening prayers at a time when humans are sleeping. (Hadith ditakhirij by Tirmidhi).

From Ibn Abbas. of the Prophet., he said: "my Lord should come to me in, the best of form by saying:" O Muhammad ", I replied:" We let thee, O my Lord, 'and happiness ".

He said: "In terms of whether Al Malaul a'la (high group) that fight? I replied: "O my Lord, I do not know". Then he put his hand in between the two bones belikatku and I get my milk coolness between the two, and I know what is in between the east and west. He said, "O Muhammad!". I replied: "I let your summons, O my Lord and happiness". He said: "In terms of whether the high vang group that fight?". I replied: "In degrees and erasers, namely stepping foot to the congregation, complete ablution over things that are not favored and waiting prayer after prayer. Whoever vang keep it then he live well and die well, and sin as the day is born by his mother ". (Hadith takhrijed by Tirmidhi).

From Abdullah bin Amr Ibn Ash ra ie., He said: We pray Maghrib together Prophet, people who have returned home and still sit people who pray or beg. Prophet. coming soon panting breath and opened his knees as he said: "Cheer up, your Lord has opened one of the gates of heaven, He boast-megahdengan you to the angels, as he said:" Look to wait another fard ". (Hadith takhrijed by Ibn Majah).

Position Prayer In Islam

by The

Shaykh Abdul Azhim bin Abdullah al-Khalafi

There are five obligatory prayers: Dhuhr, 'Asr, Maghrib,' Isha 'and Fajr.

Anas radi anhu, he said, "On the night of Isra '(when the Prophet sallallaahu' alaihi wa sallam was raised to the sky) are required to the Prophet sallallaahu 'alaihi wa sallam pray fifty times. Then reduced to five times. Then he called out, 'O Muhammad, the real decision on my side can not be changed. And verily you (the reward) of five is like (reward) and fifty '. "[1]

Of Talha bin 'Ubaidullah radi anhu, he tells us that once a Bedouin Arab straggly hair came to the Prophet sallallaahu' alaihi wa sallam and said, "O Messenger of Allah, let me pray what God required of me." He replied:

الصلوات الخمس إلا أن تطوع شيئا.

"Prayer five times a day, unless you want to add something (from the sunnah prayer)." [2]

Position Prayer In Islam

From 'Abdullah ibn' Umar radi anhu, he said that the Prophet sallallaahu 'alaihi wa sallam said:

بني الإسلام على خمس, شهادة أن لا إله إلا الله وأن محمدا عبده ورسوله, وإقام الصلاة, وإيتاء الزكاة وحج البيت, وصوم رمضان.

"Islam is built upon five (cases): the testimony that there is no god who has the right diibadahi but Allah and Muhammad is the Messenger of Allah, establish the prayer, issued alms, pilgrimage to the House, and fasting Ramadan." [3]

A. Legal person who did Salah

The entire Islamic Ummah agreed that those who deny the necessity of prayer, so he is an infidel and out of Islam. But they disagree about the people who still believe in leaving the prayer with its legal obligations. Because of their dispute is the existence of a number of hadith of the Prophet sallallaahu 'alaihi wa sallam who call people who left prayers as the heathen, without distinguishing between those who deny and lazy to do it.

From Jabir radi anhu, he said that the Prophet sallallaahu 'alaihi wa sallam said:

إن بين الرجل وبين الشرك والكفر ترك الصلاة.

"Surely (boundary) between shirk and kufr someone is leaving the prayer." [4]

Of Buraidah, he said, "I heard the Prophet sallallaahu 'alaihi wa sallam said:

العهد الذي بيننا وبينهم الصلات, فمن تركها فقد كفر.

'The agreement between us and them is prayer. Whoever leaves, then he is a disbeliever. '"[5]

But rajih of the opinions of the scholars', that is the kufr kufr here is little that is not issued from religion. This is the result of a compromise between these hadiths with some other traditions, including:

From 'Ubadah bin ash-Saamit radi anhu, he said, "I heard the Prophet sallallaahu' alaihi wa sallam said:

خمس صلوات كتبهن الله على العباد, من أتى بهن لم يضيع منهن شيئا استخفافا بحقهن كان له عند الله عهد أن يدخله الجنة, ومن لم يأت بهن فليس له عند الله عهد, إن شاء عذبه وإن شاء غفر له.

'Five prayers of Allah upon the servants are required. Whoever do it and not waste it in the slightest because underestimate, then he has an agreement de-with God to put it into Heaven. And who does not do it, then he does not have a covenant with God. If He wills, He mengadzabnya. Or if He wills, He forgave him. '"[6]

We conclude that the law left the prayer is still below the degree of kufr and shirk. Because the Prophet sallallaahu 'alaihi wa sallam handed the case of people who do not do the will of God.

While Allah Subhanahu wa Ta'ala says:

إن الله لا يغفر أن يشرك به ويغفر ما دون ذلك لمن يشاء ومن يشرك بالله فقد افترى إثما عظيما

"Verily Allah will not forgive the sin of shirk, and He forgives all sins apart from (shirk), for whom He wills. Whoever is to Allah, then indeed he has a great sin. "[An-Nisa ': 48]

From Abu Hurayrah radi anhu, he said, "I heard the Prophet sallallaahu 'alaihi wa sallam said,' Behold the first time brought to account from a servant of the Muslims on the Day of Judgment is the obligatory prayer. If he do it to perfection (he survived). If not, then say: Look, if he has a sunnah prayers? If he has the sunnah prayer is obligatory prayer was enhanced by the sunnah prayers. Then the whole practice of obligatory prayer was brought to account as well. '"[7]

Of Hudhayfah ibn al-Yaman, he said that the Prophet sallallaahu 'alaihi wa sallam said, "Islam will vanish as the disappearance of the color in faded clothes. Until no longer known what was fasting, prayers, sacrifices, and Sadaqah. Qur'aan will be lifted in one night, until being left not a single verse in the earth. Stay a class of human being of the elderly and frail. They said, 'We found our fathers spoke the words: La ilaha illallaah and we say it.' "Shilah said to him," Is not the phrase laa ilaha illallaah no benefit to them, if they do not know what that is prayer, fasting, sacrifices, and Sadaqah? "

Then Hudhayfah turned away. Shilah repeated three times. Each time it is also Hudhayfah turned away. On the third time, Hudhayfah turned and said, "O shilah, a sentence that will save them from Hell. He repeated it three times. "[8]

B. To Whom Required?

Salah was compulsory for every Muslim who has baligh and sensible

From 'Ali radi anhu, from the Prophet sallallaahu' alaihi wa sallam, he said:

رفع القلم عن ثلاثة: عن النائم حتى يستيقظ, وعن الصبي حتى يحتلم, وعن المجنون حتى يعقل.

"Pena (charity recorders) is lifted from three people: from those who sleep until awakened, from children to baligh, and from the crazy to come back unconscious." [9]

Incumbent upon parents to send their children to pray before his prayers even though it is not required, that it is familiar to his prayers.

From 'Amr ibn Shu'ayb, from his father, from his grandfather, he said that the Prophet sallallaahu' alaihi wa sallam said:

مروا أولادكم بالصلاة وهم أبناء سبع سنين, واضربوهم عليها وهم أبناء عشر سنين, وفرقوا بينهم في المضاجع.

"Instruct your children to pray at the age of seven years. And beat them for leaving him at the age of ten years. As well as their separate beds. "[10]